Good.
Sorry to hear it, but you really aren’t responsible for educating him. Kudos for even trying. Hopefully this will being some calm and quiet to your days. 
The brother isnt so bad, but I have to restrict them both
Which was part of my original reluctance, because he sees his brother replying. Or something.
Anyway the mere fact this has been a concern enough to start a whole thread about it gave me my true answer.
Thanks ro all who replied.
Oh anf Gatopescado? You aren’t that guy. (Insert obligatory Terrance and Phillip joke here…“I’m not your friend, Guy”. “I’m not your Guy, friend”) You failed the Shibboleth test. Someone from my home town would call it a “camp.”
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Carry on.
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Thanks. It’s not just the fall-out (“Wait! You knew he was cheating on me and you didn’t say anything?”), it’s the whole trust issue.
“OK, here’s the deal. You stood up in front of witnesses after filling out all kinds of paperwork, swearing you would be faithful, and now you expect me to trust you? Someone you just happen to hang with? Nope. I 'm not saying your spouse is perfect, or even tolerable, but you need to get a legal separation and come back with it to show me. There’s the door.”
If you don’t want to anger or upset him by defriending or blocking him, why not edit your privacy settings so he can’t see your posts?
He might just think you’ve gotten quiet lately, or if he has a large amount of friends, he may not even notice your absence from his news feed.
I already knew I wasn’t that guy. I’m this guy.
I get what you are saying and I keep my Facebook page mostly advocacy free. However, I feel if you share an opinion than I don’t see the problem with others sharing theirs. I think it’s strange that people want a high level of conformity.
Two thoughts.
First, “civility” is not the same as “conformity”. One can demand a lot of the former without forcing much of the latter.
Second, and IANA FB user so I’ll murder the details, but here goes.
In a sense each FB poster is the “host” of what appears on their individual page. Yes, other folks put stuff there. But the page owner is still the host who controls (or cedes control) of who knows the page exists, who can read what, and who can post there.
ISTM you’re free to air your commentary on your page, be that insightful, banal, or incoherent. I’m not sure you necessarily have the same rights to air your commentary on *my *page. Especially not when the social expectation is that I’m at least partly responsible for what appears on my page even though I may not be the author of everything on it.
IOW, I have some curatorial responsibility for my page. Different folks have different opinions of how much curation is enough and how much is too much. ISTM not many people think the right answer is zero.
I have a FB friend whose husband is offensive and vocal like the person discussed in the OP, not sure if he is autistic or not.
After several occasions of being sworn at and called names by her husband whilst commenting on her posts, I sent her a private message telling her that I would no longer comment on anything and why, not expecting her to choose me over her spouse.
She thanked me for the explanation and honesty, but now we just like each others pet pictures and keep it at that.
My point: accommodating people with jerkish behavior makes everyone else suffer and teaches the jerk nothing.
I was off-line for a year when the Internet changed from being a military/educational/governmental tool to a commercial venue. Newspapers were some of the first things to get on-line and it wasn’t too long before they started allowing readers’ comments. It wasn’t long after newspapers allowed subscriber comments that two types of “comments” became abundant: 1) Advertisements pretending to be testimonies (I’ve complained about this in another GQ thread) and 2) Rude political jabs – most frequently against Democratic politicians. The latter tended to pretend to tie in to the news article while integrating some kind of insult. The rude comments would generate backlash and counter-commentary from people who just took the comments sections of news articles way too personally. Eventually, I just learned to stick to the articles and not worry about other people’s commentary.
Long before the Internet and MySpace and FaceBook, there was something of a trope or cliche (or theme or aphorism or whatever they’re called) that was basically, “some kids crave attention so much that they’ll gladly accept even negative attention.”
While thinking about this thread over the weekend, it occurred to me that the OP’s friend’s brother may have learned that behavior. He (and maybe Xizor’s friend’s husband, and maybe several other examples above) are going around posting things that are intentionally designed to generate contention and backlash, just because people can and will respond. The fact that the responses are admonishments for rudeness or counter-arguments or insults is irrelevant because nothing is more important to those guys than the mere fact that there are people responding – hey, I’ve generated some attention!
The newspapers have responded by blocking commentary for some of their articles, particularly in the political sections. It seems Mona Lisa Simpson has been pushed to that decision as well.
–G!
Your right to swing your fist ends
where my nose begins.
Thanks.
Things I will tolerate on “my wall”.
People who have different opinions on works of art, (music cinema etc)political, religious, or social issues.
I sometimes fear my FB page is an echo chamber since most of my friends have similar beliefs, so diversity can be good.
What I will not Tolerate:
Racist, sexist, homophobic or transphobic comments, or any kind of bullying.
So when it crosses the line from unpopular opinion to racist (etc) inflammatory statements i will remove the posts. Because I don’t want my first nations friends to see his 5 am rant “I didn’t steal anybody’s land”. Or (many many) rape survivor friends see comments about “maybe don’t get drink when you are dressed like a slut”. I left that one up because he was shut down brilliantly and the reply post was worth saving.
But yeah. I already have a list of people who only get the jokes and pictures of food. What are two more on the list? (Jerk and brother. They are like psychic twins… neither are working right now so they both stay up too late on FB)
It felt damn good to not wake up and franticly check what if anything offensive he might have replied to my posts.
Thanks again.
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Hijack …
Actually one’s right to swing their fist ends when someone nearby might reasonably become concerned that said fist might end near enough to their nose that they might have to take evasive or counter-aggressive action.
Threats are not harmless free bites. Threats are assaults.