I agree with levdrakon- and I think it’s not necessarily a failure of imagination when we talk about similarities we might well share with extraterrestrial beings. Assuming the laws of physics and chemistry are the same in other parts of the universe, there are a whole bunch of sweet spots and goldilocks zones that overlap in such a way to make it less than completely impossible for aliens very broadly similar to us to exist.
I’m not talking about ST humanoids with bumpy foreheads, just aliens on the same general scale as us, that eat, shit and reproduce, that use tools, sense their environment, and so on.
Consider:
Carbon/hydrogen/oxygen chemistry offers a very wide range of possibilities - maybe it’s not the only way to do it, but it’s a friendly toolset, and a common one.
Liquid water (as well as being part of the above chemistry) has some interesting properties that tend to stabilise an ecosystem (if ice sank - as most solids do when immersed in their own liquid - the Earth’s ecosystem could easily freeze solid), as well as being a good solvent for a wide range of useful substances.
Material properties start to set upper limits on the size of motile organisms (if they’re not motile, or organisms, they won’t be visiting) - somewhat mitigated by variation in environment, maybe, but there’s still a gradient of difficulty there.
Brownian motion, surface tension, fluid viscosity, the scalability of fire and metallurgy etc start to set lower limits on the size of organisms that could reasonably make and use tools (we could still end up interacting with hive-style biological spaceships, I guess)
Evolution by natural selection would tend to favour organisms that ‘want’ over those that don’t care (as well as a whole bunch of other stuff)
And so on. None of these things are absolute, but in superposition, they create favourable niches. We can’t expect aliens to be bumpy humanoids, but we should be surprised if they’re too small to be visible, big enough to blot out the sun or not interested in anything. We may still be surprised, of course.