So I know that this forum discussion is a bit old, but I also know that a lot of people, as well as myself, check out forums based on their content, not date. Forums and discussion boards, like this one, can help someone gather ideas on topics that one may be needing ideas for!
So on that note… I wanted to post something for anyone who checks out this forum while seeking out bridesmaid/wedding gift ideas && thank you note ideas! (And just cool wedding ideas in general!) I was recently the best “ma’am” in my brothers wedding on July 11th. It was in Charlottesville, VA at a vineyard and was just so beautiful. For anyone wanting an outside wedding, I definitely recommend having it at a winery/vineyard. My brother and his wife did SO many cool things with this wedding that I wanted to pass on some of the ideas they used; it was a very unique wedding. Since my brother and I happen to not only be siblings but also best friends, he asked that I be his “best man” and be the first to stand behind him. The bride and her brother have a very close relationship as well, she asked that he be her “maid of honor.” We were referred to, however, as the “best ma’am and man of honor.” I wore the same dress as the bridesmaids, but in black since I was technically a groomsman. Her brother did NOT wear a pale blue tux though 
My brother and his then fiance are slightly older, well early 30’s, which is not old at all but definitely a little past the age where the typical bachelorette and bachelor parties (with strippers and hotel rooms and such) are appealing, so they decided to pick a weekend where he and his friends would go have a “guys weekend” somewhere while the girls would go have a “girls weekend” somewhere. The guys went to Colorado and went skiing, snowboarding, to a brewery one day, etc …The girls went to a spa resort for the weekend; I thought these were great ideas for ways to get away and have quality time with your friends. For any girl who may be from TX, or the South, or a country music lover, or anything of that sort, I thought that wearing cowboy boots with the wedding dress was SUCH a cute thing to do, looked adorable in pictures (especially with the vineyard in the background), and probably much more comfy 
Um, regarding thank-you notes… Whenever there was a thank-you card to be sent out (after the bridal shower, wedding, etc…) the two of them made sure that each of them wrote a separate little message in each card, so that the person receiving the card got a personal “thank-you” from each of them. Because, if you think about it… perhaps not everyone that attended the event from the groom’s side knew the bride as well, and vice verse. So, just as an example, I’m sure that my grandmother’s best friend, who has known my brother his whole life & watched him grow up & now get married, appreciated it A LOT that my brother wrote her a personal note in the thank-you card, rather than her just getting a generic thank-you card from his new wife that she really has only met once, at the actual wedding. Get what I’m saying? I think as far as the actual messages in the cards go, I think that just being sure to not only thank the person for coming, especially if it was a wedding with some distance involved, but also say that it meant a lot that they could be there to spend and share such an important day with you guys. Be sure to acknowledge what gift they got you and that you really love it, get a lot of use out of it, something like that.
Everyone likes a little something that is personalized.
As far as buying gifts for bridesmaids and things like that, depending on where you live there are some GREAT places to shop for these things. Really though, online may be a girl’s best bet. I was included in the girls’ gifts, obviously, when it came to my brother’s wedding and his wife got us some really neat stuff, but didn’t have to spend a fortune. We got these sandals/flip-flops called “switch flops” and i will have to come back later with the exact name of the designer (I believe they say “lindsay phillips” on the inside) but they were sandals (there are both flip-flop style, and a “nicer”, sandal style available with a thong type strap that was interchangeable. You could buy different “V shaped” straps and switch them out, changing the look of your sandal. There are a lot of fun options… rhinestoned, polka dotted, various materials and patterns… This was a great gift for girls (Something less expensive, but they were actually a nice quality shoe) and something that we could all wear together over the weekend.
Also, anything personalized (I have mentioned this term a few times now) is always great. So like other people said, a nice personalized compact, an engraved or just very nice frame, sterling silver necklaces or bracelets that are somehow personalized, etc. A couple good store or websites to either visit in person OR online are Things Remembered and marilynskeepsakes.com
Marilyn’s Keepsakes actually specialized in wedding-related gifts and “keepsakes” such as wedding cake toppers, champagne flutes, bridesmaids gifts, etc…
I hope SOMEBODY got SOMETHING from this long forum post
I have been wanting to share their wedding ideas and such with someone for a while because they just had such a beautiful wedding and everyone had such a good time and most of all, it was just nice to see them do everything the way THEY wanted to with all these fun, new ideas and ways to do things, rather than just do everything the traditional way because that’s how you are “supposed” to do it… Hope I was of some help 