Coldfire –
I was never not allowed to post. I stopped on my own accord, as I’ve said before.
I started dating a beautiful woman about two months ago. As we were getting to know each other several weeks later, I introduced her to the SDMB. As our relationship grew and we fell in love, she expressed a sincere concern about the content of many of my posts to the board. I decided to stop posting because I wasn’t sure what was bothering her.
My “adieu” thread was made to say “so long” to you guys. Girlbysea, my belle, saw that thread and read many of the posts. She was hurt and offended and realized that there was something here that she didn’t understand. That thread enabled me to discuss with her the purpose of the board, the personalities of certain poster, the history I’ve had with them and other board lore.
She was particularly hurt by my flirting, which manifested itself as jealousy and insecurity. We’ve been able to work this problem out.
Also of concern to her was the honesty with which I post. In threads dealing with feelings or passions, I’m quite honest with you guys. I don’t adopt an on line persona (Satan, GOD, et al). Believe it or not kellibelli and other TMers have expressed the same opinion.
I’ve decided to post again. I didn’t have to ask, for I want told to stop. But in deference to GBS I’ll not flirt or post to certain threads anymore. I intend to continue to be honest with my posts, too.
I’ve not chosen a woman over SD and vice versa (Deal with that one, pluto!) and I’ve not become a dumper or dumpee.
pluto –
Versus has the connotation in my mind of “being against or contrasted to” when I use it.
Vice has the connotation of “instead of” when I use it.
Military “vice” versus civilian “versus” and vice versa –
WAG - Vice is used more often verbally in the military 'cause it’s quick to say and it is easy to understand over sound-powered phone and military radios. Sometimes it just bleeds into my writing.