Wow. Talk about coming late to the thread! Don’t know how I missed all of this before, except to say I’ve been wrapped up in my own stuff.
Anyway, lots more hugs to you and your family, picunurse. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers. Just hang in there, and keep putting one foot in front of the other. Do the best you can, day to day, and give the rest over to God.
MIL went into to OR an hour ago. Hubby and I came home to relax for a bit.
I ended up having an argument with FIL last night. I was pushing “Mom” to finish the gallon of bowel prep the nurse told her was absolutely vital she finish. She was tired of it and had about an eight left.
“Pop” yelled at me that she’d had enough. That if she was as fat as I am, she’d need all of it, but she’s a “little” woman. (she wears the same size I do) I told him that weight isn’t an issue, that the GI tract is about the same length in most adults. That this wasn’t like a colonoscopy, where a little dust left over could be over looked. That having her bowel clean would lessen the chance of infection.
He responded that I only think I know everything.
I said I did know about this, after forty years in the business.
I said I was only trying to make sure she had the best opportunity to come through this. And the reason I was concerned, is I love her too, that she’s treated me like a daughter. He said “No, she hasn’t she doesn’t like you.”
Hubby was running an errand, so I was his only target, I guess. I know it was stress, but it still hurt my feelings. :rolleyes:
Sigh, I went to bed and cried myself to sleep.
This morning, he acted like nothing had happened. I’m sure he was waiting for me to appologize, but I couldn’t.
I will, when we go back to the hospital in a couple hours.
Again thanks for the sympathic ears.
After what he said, I sure don’t think you owe him an apology. I realize he is scared and stressed, but that is no reason to be intentionally hurtful to someone who is trying to help. I hope you told your husband what he said.
I hope the surgery went well, and that the prognosis is good. My thoughts are with you.
picunurse, it’s terrible that he said those things to you! You certainly don’t owe him an apology. But I’ll be hoping there’s a good outcome to all of this.
Wow, you’ve got a lot on your plate what with the sick and the surly and the scared. I’m wishing you strength and courage to get through this difficult time though you sound like one damned strong woman. Hang in there.
Hope your MIL comes out of everything OK. Peace to you and your family Picunurse.
My SO underwent surgery for colon cancer about 3 years ago. To this day she’s doing fine and cancer-free. No colonoscopy.
They’re some very good procedures these days and I think she has a good chance of overcoming this.
Jack
You, your MIL, and the rest of your family are in my thoughts, Picunurse. I hope all goes well.
picunurse, this is the first time I’ve seen this thread, so sorry. I will remember you, your MIL, and the rest of the family(even the cranky FIL) in my prayers.
Remember to take care of your own health. BTW, what profession are you in? I saw the reference to being “in the business for forty years” I have a lot of nurses in my family, and could never be that smart or strong.
I’m retired now, but I worked in critical care for much of my career.
Thank you, and all of you, for the support. Hubby is calling right now to find out how it’s all going.
I figured if I stay in the back ground today, we can move on.
I’m taking care of myself. I’ll get to bed early tonight. I just finished lunch. and I took Aleve this morning for my back.
(((((((((((((((picnurse))))))))))))))))))) been there, done that. im very sorry, If you need a roadmap let me know.
Lost both my grandmother (before I was born) as well as my mother to the big C.
My thoughts are with you all.
[sub]It always seems to be the women in our family. I don’t know whether to feel relieved that I’m male, ashamed to be relieved, or stupid for somehow believing my maleness is a sign of immunity.
None of it is comfortable. The only thing that works for me is celebrating and treasuring what you have enough to offset lamenting what you lose…if that makes any sense.[/sub]
She came through, skating. No colostomy. She’s awake and alert, and in little or no pain. The nursing staff seems very nice and very concerned.
I feel so much better.
Hubby spoke to his dad, and he has apologized. He seems to barely remember he did it, so I’ll write it off the stress.
Once again, all of you’re encouragement and support has pulled me through.
THANK YOU,SO MUCH!
Glad to hear things went well! Go get some rest so that you can continue to be supportive. Good thoughts and prayers for the whole family.
GT
Very excellent. Go and get some rest. big 
Another ditto for “glad things went well.”
Best wishes for you and yours.
I’m glad she’s doing so well. Yay!
Here’s hoping things continue to go well.
We need a “thumbs up” smiley.
Another latecomer to the thread here…
Picnurse, my prayers go out to you.
Regarding FIL, try (if you can) to just forget the whole incident. He’s going through a lot right now, and while that certainly doesn’t excuse his actions, it won’t make anyone feel any better to have a running argument going on. We lost my father a couple months ago, after several months of serious illness. There were a number of “incidents” between various family members, but it was all because we were angry with the situation, not with each other. No apologies were made, nor were they expected. I think it just goes with the territory.
On preview, I see there’s good news!
Huzzah!!!
That is wonderful news. You sound very relieved!
Hubby slept late this morning, so Pop and I had breakfast alone. All went well. He’s much calmer, knowing mom’s doing well.
He and Hubby just went off to the hospital, so I could catch up on the house.
So, I’m taking a five minute break to soak up the good wishes. Now I’ll have the energy and courage to finish the mountain of dishes two men make over night.
Kisses and hugs to all of you!