Umm… condolences for your… loss? I dont know what to say. I’m sure you’ll be able to visit her right?
Now, if only she’d move to Baltimore…
Stranger
Christ, Stranger, why would you wish that on anyone?
quickly hides his location
Oh, geez, you totally had me worried for a minute.
I’d offer to game, but I’m even further away.
Hey, everybody, just back off of tdn. Yeah, there are airplanes and phones and e-mail and text messaging and blah, blah, blah. Thirty years ago I shook the hand of my very best friend in the world and we vowed to get back together again, to fly together, to write together, to bunk down in crappy hotel rooms in the interest of journalism again. Never did it. His career took him one way, mine too me my way. We kept in touch as best we could with phone calls and letters (pre-WWW days) but we went longer and longer between communication. Now I’ve lost track of Tom altogether. The truth is, it takes every penny we can scrape together just to go see our sons once every two years. never mind an old Army newspaper buddy.
I’m sorry, tdn, you’ve suffered a real loss. Do the best you can to keep in touch with Cheryl, but know that you will eventually lose her completely. Cherish your friendship, label those photgraphs her now so you don’t forget ten, twenty, thirty years from now why you took them in the first place.
I have a friend who I met my first week of college who I’ve now known for two-thirds of my life. We may not get to hang out together as much as we once did, but we still stay on top of each other’s lives. In fact, I’m going to her younger son’s bar mitzvah this October. Even though I live a thousand miles away.
So no, you don’t have to end up losing someone completely. It’s entirely possible to stay in touch. I know that K. and I will be friends for the rest of our lives; we’ve amply proven that over the years.
Don’t buy into Sunrazor’s negativity, tdn. If the friendship is that valuable to you, you’ll find a way to keep it going. It may change, but it doesn’t have to disappear entirely.
On the other hand, last year I re-established contact with my best friend from 3rd-5th grade through Facebook. The world is becoming much smaller, and with effort I dont see any reason why friendships have to vanish entirely.
So she’s moved away, like others have said, we’re living in the age of communication -there’s phone, text, email, instant messenger, facebook, myspace and a bunch of otherways to keep in touch.
TDN, I seriously thought that you had had someone really close to you die, but she’s only moved away. I realise this is a big thing for you, but is it really the be all and end all of your friendship if you have to resort to other ways of communication? And like others have said, it means that you can anticipate visiting each other!
What’s with the 16 month gestation thing? Wouldn’t her OB/GYN induce labor round about the 10th month?
I sense that you loved her secretly from a distance and it was always an unrequited love, but that you sensed something from her as well.
I also sense that when you were gaming your characters had an affair.
Indeed. Pittsburgh is in Pennsylvania, but Pittsburg is in Kansas.
Most misleading thread title, EVAH!
At least you guys can still game together. And what’s worse than an excuse to travel?
Well, for me, getting the H out of Pittsburgh is pretty much a reflex.
Tris
And California. and Texas.
And New Hampshire, Oklahoma, Arkansas, Alabama, Colorado, Florida…
My best friend moved thousands of miles away to SE Asia, that was twenty years ago. I’ve visited several times and I miss her at times terribly.
But as long as she draws breath somewhere on this earth we will always be best friends.
Yeah things will change but she’s still right there. Some friendships are very special, rare, and unique things. My experience tells me those ones seem to survive intact regardless of the distance. Perhaps even shudder Pittsburgh!