There is no particular answer to being a good lover. I truly believe good lovers are individuals that are actually in love with their partner. Being in love brings out a certain sense of creativity, caring, attention to detail, and the passion that we all crave so much.
Of course our physical being plays a large part also. Good hygiene, smooth skin, and adequate equipment all play major roles. Touching and being touched is different for everyone. You can spend a lifetime with someone and never know exactly what they enjoy the most. Which brings me to the next item.
For everyone that may not enjoy the passion of new love, communication is the key to passionate longevity. Tell your partner exactly what you like and most of your problems should be solved.
The best kisser I ever kissed was fabulously amazingly awesome at kissing and never had bad breath, even though he smoked copiously. His kisses alone were worth the price of admission, despite is other, um, shortcomings. Suffice it to say that he was a lousy lover. It was very sad.
I’m thinking now about my 3 best lovers and the were all very tall, very thin, and ridiculously energetic. They also had very big dicks. They were great kissers too. I don’t know if these are universal indicators, and I certainly hope they aren’t, because my new love interest is a short, stocky guy who isn’t necessarily any more energetic than I am. He’s a good kisser, but as I’ve said, that doesn’t serve as an accurate predictor for me. We’ll see.
I have to say that I don’t think there’s any way to know how someone is going to be in bed before you sleep with them. It’s all about chemistry and timing.
The best lover I ever had was porn-star big. He just knew how to use it. The guy who hurt me was above average but not as big, and clearly did not reflect much on its usage. I think size matters to an extent, but it’s more important to be aware of the effect you’re having on your partner.