First of all, thanks to everyone for their replies. I was very frustrated and angry when I wrote the OP and I’m feeling a little better now. There is some very useful advice in this thread that I will definitely follow up on. To clarify a few points:
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Again, not wanting to read too much into the snapshot of your post, but if you’re questioning the value of a 40hr week in grad school, and envisioning a career as a professor ?! I’m sorry, but that is ludicrous.
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I didn’t phrase this part of my OP correctly. I’m not really looking for a 40-hour work week, because I know that it’s not really possible in any professional career. I was really trying to say two things with that statement. First of all, despite the long weeks, I don’t feel like I’m progressing very far in my research. I also don’t get any positive feedback on my research unless I go to conferences. When I present my research to others, they find it interesting and we’ll talk about it for awhile. But on a day-to-day basis, particularly from my advisor, I get absolutely zero positive feedback. Criticism is necessary and useful, but sometimes I also need to be told that I’m doing something right, so that I can build on my strengths as well as minimize my weaknesses.
Secondly, having put in long weeks and not getting far with it, I get frustrated that I don’t get to pursue any of my other interests. My friends in the department do, but I feel like it’s just not possible for me, with my advisor. Heck, I know several people that have their own rock band. They practice on a regular basis and get gigs around town. I don’t know how they find the time to do that.
In undergrad, which admittedly is very different from grad school, I did two majors, one in astronomy and one in writing. That provided a very necessary balance. Grad school is utterly different in that it requires complete focus on one thing. My brain isn’t built for that. I need to be able to pursue other interests, especially writing, in order to be a happy, balanced person.
[QUOTE=The Cocky Watchman]
Something needs to be done in regard to communicating your first paper to the astrophysics literature. A paper that has been ‘nearly ready’ for a year is a paralysing state of affairs. There can be good reasons for it, like if the pace of your research is almost perfectly in synch with a fast moving field, or you’re aiming to put something stupendous out that has to be refined to the nth degree. By and large though, you just have to take the plunge. After all, the only people who can really say if a paper is ready or not are the journal’s referees.
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There are a couple of issues with the paper. First of all, I started writing the paper before the research was fully finished. This is both good and bad. Good, because it forced me to look more carefully at everything I was doing, and bad (or good, depending on how you look at it) because as I looked more carefully, I found some really interesting results that required rewriting sections of the paper, as well as the addition of a new section.
I’m also working simultaneously on two big projects. The paper is one, but I’m also working on a big survey and that takes up a lot of time too.
Part of it, too, though is that my advisor is a perfectionist and every time I give him a draft I get a few very useful comments and then a whole host of tiny revisions to individual sentences. I write well enough, I think, but he is very particular about how he wants this paper to be written, and how he wants the plots, etc. Sometimes, he ends up changing sentences that he’s already changed. It’s ridiculous.
[QUOTE=Schuyler]
- Finish that degree - you sound a bit discouraged today, but you must be getting close by now.
- If your advisor is being unreasonable (do you think this is the case? ask around or talk to another prof. or mentor), then talk to them about it (first), and then take it up a level to your chair. It would blow chunks to switch advisors, but it can happen.
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I do intend on finishing my degree. I’m theoretically a little over a year from graduating, so it would be silly of me to throw away all the work I’ve done. For the same reason, I don’t think it’s really possible to switch advisors, unless I’m willing to start a new project in a new field and stay on for another two years minimum. I’m not really willing to do that because I really like my current research. It’s interesting and no one’s really pursued it before.
[QUOTE=bonzer]
The one immediate contemporary of mine who is now a professional science writer - indeed a staff writer for New Scientist - did so by doing some sort of vocational postgraduate course on journalism after getting their undergraduate astronomy degree, not by falling into it by accident.
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Can you tell me more about this? What kind of course, how long did it take, and how did it help get your friend started in science writing?
[QUOTE=Harriet the Spry]
There are only so many opportunities for people to earn a living doing neat stuff like astronomy research, and lots of people want those opportunities, so they tend to go to people who will give 110% to it.
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You’re absolutely right. I should count my lucky stars that I’m able to do this for a living. (Sorry, for the pun, I couldn’t help it - I’m not being facetious though, I do mean that statement.) I just wish that I didn’t have to give everything to pursue this career. I wish I could have something left over for actually living life.
[QUOTE=kozmik]
Papers are demanding, you know. 
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This made me laugh so hard last night, I really needed that! Lol, I must have been really riled up when writing the OP.
Sorry for rambling for so long. I really appreciate the advice and good wishes everyone has offered, it means a lot.