Wesley is not the kind of guy who would make light of rape or deliberately provoke. It was just bad phrasing.
Strangulation is a felony in the state of Michigan - as long as it’s not consensual. So your breath play stuff is legal I guess. (But dangerous! It’s generally a bad idea to strangle anyone for any reason.)
Unfortunately I read an article about how some guys were trying to pass DV strangulations off as a sex thing when they accidentally killed their victims, or that some men are surprising women with strangulation during sex - which is illegal.
This subject interests me because the organization I work for has a START clinic which specializes in domestic violence strangulation. We get regular trainings. Uplifting stuff.
and that was a grammatical screw up on my part and I admit that. it’s a loaded issue. my point fundamentally is that what separates many, but not all, criminal acts from normal, healthy, legal acts is whether all parties consent and enjoy the interaction. I should’ve left that out because it doesn’t really tie Into what I was inquiring about which is why in some areas consent still isn’t enough to make an act legal (battery, prostitution, drug use, bribery, murder, etc).
bribery however is done against the consent of the general public, so even that crime is a crime of lack of consent, it’s just that the public are the victims.
“Rape” fantasy has nothing to do with the crime of rape. Rape is the violation of a person’s bodily autonomy that priveleges the assailant’s sexual gratification over the experience of the victim. Fantasy is a realm where the fantasizer has 100% control and 100% bodily autonomy. It’s only nominally called “rape fantasy” because there’s not any great way of describing it, though the preferred nomenclature among women who do have these fantasies is “ravishment” because they recognize it has nothing to do with rape.
Countering. Rape is all about pathological assertion of power or the victim.
[From Britannica.com. The definition of rape.]
…Rape was long considered to be caused by unbridled sexual desire, but it is now understood as a pathological assertion of power over a victim…
…The psychological motivations of rapists are more complex than was formerly thought. They may include the desire to punish, to gain revenge, to cause pain, to prove sexual prowess, and to control through fear. The psychological reactions of victims of rape also vary but usually include feelings of shame, humiliation, confusion, fear, and rage. Victims often report a feeling of perpetual defilement, an inability to feel clean, an overwhelming sense of vulnerability, and a paralyzing feeling of lack of control over their lives. Many are haunted by fear of the place in which the crime occurred, or of being followed, or of all sexual relationships. Others experience long-term disruption of sleep or eating patterns or an inability to function at work. The duration of the psychological trauma varies from individual to individual; many feel the effects for years, even with considerable supportive therapy. In view of the great psychological harm it causes, many psychologists regard rape as a form of torture—a permanent mutilation of an individual’s life…