I ran into an old work colleague at the mall the other day. We really got along back then, not much out of work but we saw each other every day. We were pretty close.
Well, I went over and said hi, and chatted with him. I asked him how his girlfriend (and the mother of his children) were doing, and he said they’re married. He asked me about my boyfriend, and I told him we were still together and very happy. We exchanged e-mail addresses. I tried the best I could to give the impression that I was just hoping for an e-mail correspondence, unless we started getting along better, of course.
Two days later I e-mailed him, and it was a light, chatty little letter, nothing heavy. I’ve heard nothing back.
What did I do wrong? It’s been two weeks! I don’t understand why this happens…do people really have so many friends they can afford to just neglect/ditch one?
Perhaps he does not check his email daily or even weekly.
Perhaps he is out of the country/in the sticks/otherwise “disconnected.”
Perhaps his children both have the flu and he has no time right now.
Perhaps he is not comfortable replying in content-free prose and is waiting to have some news before he makes his reply. Did your email contain any “call to action” such as “we should get together next week. when’s good for you?” or any questions worth replying to aside from the pleasure of chitchat?
I think you should chill out. I often go weeks or months (years in one case) without hearing from people I consider dear friends but we catch up eventually.
And I go days without checking my Hotmail inbox.
Ok, I will wait and see. If he never writes back it’s not a big loss, but still.
Some people are lazy or don’t want to revisit the past, no matter how tame it was. I notice an ex-boyfriend of mine that I stayed friends with stopped writing to me and after I wrote and asked why it turned out to have everything to do with his insecure fiancee even though we only went out for about five seconds, there wasn’t even any sex etc. etc…
I would not worry about it. You have a mandap to string with marigolds, anyway, and a shaloo to mull about.
does a private little happy dance
I’ll second that “could be a insecury wife” thing.
Back in high school, a friend of mine dated my sister for a while. Years later, he married someone that wasn’t around back in our high school days. She was threatened enough by his past relationship with my sister, that he cut off communication with me. And no, he and I were never anything but friends.