Former major airline pilot …
On the topic of pilot & flight attendant working relationships.
Pilots and cabin crew don’t generally get along real well. A big reason is that the personalities the employer selects for are quite different since the jobs are quite different.
The ideal pilot is kinda smart in a technical sense, not real creative, and very confortable with absolutes & routines. He/she should also be rather unexcitable and good with trivia. Introverts who won’t stir up a union are also desired. Ultimately, a person who prefers the company of machines over people is good.
The ideal flight attendant really likes people; likes interacting with them. They’re extroverted improvisers. While they have routines in their job, a lot of the skill comes in working around the routines, not doing them to ever greater perfection. They tend to be very emotionally aware, and constantly tuning to the person they’re dealing with.
The end result is the two groups have almost nothing in common as personalities. Their jobs have a superficial similarity in that you travel on airplanes on odd schedules & sleep in hotels a lot. But what you *do * while at work is utterly different.
At many carriers, there are (were) a lot of pilot+F/A marriages since the travel & odd hours lifestyle can make it hard to build a dating relationship with somebody not in the business. In the old days it was the classic arrangement of the 30-ish male pilot with money & power and the 20-ish female F/A with looks and charm.
Then she gets old & beat to death overdosing on emotion & people, while his career is stagnated and they both get their incomes hammered as the airlines steadily destroy one of the few good-paying high quantity jobs left in this country. Meanwhile the effects of sedentary work & airport food make him a slob too. Stress builds & you can’t escape work stress at home since work becomes the sole shared topic of conversation.
So they get divorced. And each spends the next 15 years telling all the people they work with (ie. the pilots talk to pilots & the F/As talk to F/As) how awful their ex is and how typical he/she is of the breed. Lather, rinse, repeat for 10-15% of your workforce.
All in all, it does not lead to harmony in the workplace. There is, or at least can be, a lot of professional respect. The F/A who’re good deserve respect for doing a difficult job. And mostly they get it, at least at my (former) carrier. The rest are, well, cow-orkers as we say here on the 'Dope.
There is an old joke in the industry: How do pilots & flight attendants have oral sex? They shout “F*** you!” across the terminal concourse. It’s not far from the truth for many.
Full disclosure. I am happily married to my first wife of 20+ years. She’s not an airline person, much less an F/A type personality. So the above is me reporting on what I’ve seen, not what I’ve lived myself.