If you, as a man, want to know how women feel in a strip club, go to a gay bar and hang out for awhile. That would be fairly close.
A group of three of my friends, one of whom was the wife of one of the guys loved to go to Hooters to eat raw oysters (no double entendre intended) because it was relatively cheap and convenient. One of the waitresses even commented that she thought that they were there for the one of the girls because they were there so often, but soon realized it was really for the food.
Also, all three of them smoked and since it was outdoors, it was better than being indoors.
The average young ladies don’t wear nylons any more. It was hot out today, I saw plenty of women with less clothes on than a Hooters waitress when I was out shopping.
I’ve been to Hooters with female co-workers friends and family; no big deal. One of my female co-workers tried to set up one of the single men at our table with a waitress she knew, but he got shot down as she was already in a relationship.
No, it wouldn’t. Not even remotely. You would do yourself a favour by not thinking there’s obvious mirror images for understanding differences between the sexes.
Twin Peaks, Tilted Kilt, and Hooters are all in the same category for me. I pass my time at them every once in awhile, but they’re really not even close to a strip club. I mean, I’ve seen families at Hooters, with kids and all. It’s no more salacious than what I would see at bars when I was in my 20s. (I’m not saying it’s not salacious, but not especially so.) It’s basically PG-13, if that.
Who is being criticized here?
elbows as per posts #30 and #36, for example.
I often take a book or a crossword puzzle when I eat out alone. I wonder if that sort of thing would raise any eyebrows at Hooters.
My bad. As a man I shouldn’t have thrown my 2 cents that was speculation into this thread.
Uh… the waitresses at Hooters are more dressed than the customers at almost any beachside location I’ve been to. Or the waiters at quite a few Miami Beach locations. I’m there for the food or drink, so long as the people working there are comfortable with their clothing and said clothes aren’t unsafe, I’m busy figuring out what to have.
For some reason the phrase “a business establishment” gave me a laugh.
I went to Hooter’s a couple of times, once with friends, once with my husband. As a note, you could get their wings take-out, and they were good.
What I thought was, “Those waitresses must be cold.”
What my friend thought was, “Those waitresses are being exploited.”
On another occasion a female friend and I went into a strip club, the Diamond Cabaret. We went there because we passed it all the time on our way to the Denver Press Club and she did not believe it was a strip club, despite the fact that it said “A gentleman’s club” on the sign. There was a cover charge, which the guy at the door waived.* We sat there, had a drink, and talked to one of the dancers who was on a break. They called them “dancers” but they weren’t really dancing, just kind of posing. I’ll give them this, those gals were flexible. And very white. No tan lines and no tans. White, white, white.
My friend and I actually had more comments on the men that were there at the time. A bachelor party, where the object seemed to be to embarrass the groom; and some older businessmen who were deep in conversation and not even looking at the naked woman on their table. All in all it was really very subdued. Even the music was not loud, which is good because it was bad music.
*He told us there was a $10 cover charge. I asked him to tell her it was a strip club. He said, “It’s a gentleman’s club.” She said, “Are there strippers?” He said, “It’s a gentleman’s club.” He would not say there were naked women in there, only that it was a gentleman’s club, and finally he told us to go in and see for ourselves. No cover. There were naked women in there. I don’t know if the men were gentlemen.
I don’t think so. Not any more than in any other establishment.
For real. I hesitate even to post here, since nobody gives a shit what I think in a thread about what women think–but I read, because I’m interested in hearing a range of responses from women. It’d be nice if dudes would read instead of posting in threads like these, clean up the signal-to-noise ratio (I can’t ever remember if you want that ratio higher or lower).
Well, I was just guessing about the Hooters thing but as a young man, when our group was out barhopping the girls dragged us into a strip bar. I was describing my memories of why they thought it was fun.
Hey, I said “fairly”.
There aren’t any mirror images, but being in a business establishment catering to people who come to ogle people of your gender has to have a few tiny parallels.
Well, in the late 80s, Wednesday nights at the Enlisted club on Fort Story in Virginia had excellent wings and beer cheap, and strippers are working girls making a living. I am not particularly bothered by nudity, though the music was a bit loud it is the hanging out with my then boyfriend that was the important bit, he would have been just as comfortable at a Chippendales though back then he had an amazng bod and they might have tried to get him to moonlight (one of those guys who complained he lost conditioning in bootcamp, he did PRT to Seal stanards 18 to 21 years old in his final years while in his upper 30s. I hate that 
, i had to work my ass off to stay in shape when I worked as an armed response guard…)
In my twenties, I had a summer job that required me to drive to bars and restaurants and check to make sure the company’s equipment was working correctly. I sat and watched it run through it’s cycle for about 20-30 minutes. Some of our clients were strip clubs, so I got to see a few - some nicer, upscale clubs, and some seedier ones. I admit, at first, I felt a little awkward walking in and explaining why I was there and then taking a seat at a table, but staff were always polite. On reflection, I don’t think I thought much of anything about being in the presence of scantily clad women. I was flattered when I asked to see the manager at one club, and the clearly dressed for work in the club young woman escorting me to his office asked if I was a dancer. I always thought I was too plump and not pretty enough. Nice to think not everyone thought so.
Well, one data point: My wife is not a fan of porn, and would not like it if I went to a strip club. We, have gone to Hooters on a few occasions however, when they’ve had deals on wings. She loves wings. I don’t think either one of us considers them “scantily clad.” I consider their outfits dated and cheesy. (what’s up with the nude pantyhose?)
My wife’s girlfriend had a problem with her (ex) boyfriend going to Hooters, but it’s not because of how they dress, it’s because he ALWAYS goes there, and has gotten innapropriately close with some of the waitresses.
The only strip club I have ever gone to on a regular basis (Desire in Providence, RI) is a high-end club that is better than anything I have seen in Las Vegas or Miami. They don’t want frat boys, bachelorette parties or anyone that will disrupt the atmosphere that caters to wealthy business people.
However, there are always couples there and they are welcome as long as they know how to behave. Some of the women even get private dances. I asked a few of the female patrons why they came and they all said that they just liked to watch the dancing. Women are more fluid in their sexuality than men are. There is no way you would see a typical guy watching Chippendale dancers but the opposite isn’t true.