And, for that matter, what does your spouse/SO call your parents? How does your racial/ethnic/cultural heritage affect what you call them (if it does)??
Here’s why I’m suddently interested in the topic:
I am a caucasian American woman, the daughter of California hippies, married to a man who is half Filipino (his father’s side) and half east coast French/Swedish (his mother’s side). His father’s family is huge, his mother’s basically nonexistant and he identifies as being Filipino.
Both of my parents call their inlaws by their first names, and I do the same without thinking much about it. My husband’s mom has no problem with this (though she once, early in our marriage, said that I could call her Mom if I liked, and I think she wishes I had taken her up on it), and his father has never voiced an objection.
However, I’ve been spending more time with his extended family, and it has come to my attention that they’re somewhat scandalized that I refer to them so informally. In Filipino culture, you don’t call someone older/higher status than you by their unadorned first name, ever - even an older cousin is always called “elder cousin Bob” instead of just “Bob”, and aunts and uncles are always, ALWAYS “Auntie Bertha” and “Uncle Fernando”. (My blood-aunts and uncles are just Myrtle and Fred, no titles ever used.) My MIL has explained that I’m not being rude, but I’m certain that they look askance at me a bit for it.
So I’ve been asking around, talking with my various co-workers about what they call their inlaws, and thought I’d ask here. I’m not so much looking for advice on what I should call them, as much as sort of taking a survey to see what sort of nomenclature is used.
Some of the options I’ve seen so far, assuming one’s MIL is named Ginger Rogers:
Mrs. Rogers
Miss Ginger
Ginger
Mother Rogers
Mom
Mama
Grandma (if they have children)
Various ethnic names that translate to “Mother in law” or “Mom”
So…what do you call your inlaws?