I call my Fiance’s mom Ma, Mom or by her name pretty interchangably. Mostly Ma, though. His Dad is deceased. He doesn’t call my folks anything, yet.
Harbingers of Evil. Not to their faces though…
(j/k peeps, in case you ever see this!)
Same as my grandparents.
Dead.
His father isn’t really in the picture, we refer to him by his first name most often in jest (there’s a lot to mock, with 4 marriages, one to an in-the-closet lesbian and the father of kids by the 3 others). I call his mom Dr SoandSo. She corrected me the first few times I met her to her first name, but I felt wildly uncomfortable doing so - I was his first really serious girlfriend and she was trying hard to make a good impression and I was trying really hard to as well. I’ll probably switch to her first name once we’re hitched or engaged; she’s very relaxed and we have a great relationship.
He calls my parents Dr MaidennameSoandSo and Dr SoandSo. That will NEVER change for my dad, even when we’re married and have kids. My dad is uberformal, when we were young he apparently tried to get me and my brothers to call him “father” instead of daddy. :rollseyes: The SO may switch over to calling my mom by her first name, but she only prompted him to once.
I refer to his mom as my future MIL and he refers to mine as his future in laws.
I think this mostly has to do with how serious the couple is and how formal or relaxed your relationship with your future or potential in-laws are, not with whether or not you’re married and such.
…or how formal either/both parties are as people. Generally speaking, as an adult, when I’m introduced to another adult, I’m introduced to them by their first name, and so that is what I call them. If I was introduced to some ultra-formal person as “Mr./Mrs./Dr. So-and-so” I’d call them that, but feel that they were extremely stuffy and self-important.
Offhand the only people I can think of who I do not call by their first name are doctors of mine and my son’s teachers. Even in college I was on a first-name basis with most of my professors at least outside of class (of course, one of my professors ended up being one of my bridesmaids, and I’ve gotten drunk with more than one of my professors, if that gives you an indication as to how cozy I tended to be with them in general.)
Heh OpalCat, that made me think of my father and mother’s father. There was no love lost between the two of them; both sets of my grandparents were furious at my parents’ marriage. I don’t think my dad and my grandfather ever called each other anything than “Dr SoandSo”, even after I came along.