*I know! * The educational system is terrible.
Nov 2012.
I’m white, wife is Japanese. I’ve never noticed any odd looks from people, either here in the US or in Japan.
I rarely or never consciously take note of couples being interracial, especially in a gawking sense. I’ve had friends in interracial relationships and never even thought about it.
On the other hand, when I see an Asian man with an Asian woman, part of me fills up with jealousy and thinks, “What the hell is going on? Asian women are supposed to date us white guys :(”
Not really.
taskmgr.exe, do not post in large type like that. It’s rude and distracting, and our cardinal rule around here is Do Not Be a Jerk. This makes you appear to indeed be one.
Listen, I know you are new here, but you have been awfully confrontational to the point that you’ve received lectures from at least two moderators. Read the board rules. Post with some restraint. Cool your jets … or your time here will be short.
Ellen Cherry
Moderator
I removed the ridiculously oversized bit.
Step 1: Just think.
I notice them, I guess, because it’s unusual (at least around here). But I don’t think anything of it.
In Sheerness (Kent) most couples are.
Here in Medway (Where sheep aren’t nervous;)) there are quite a lot of mixed race people and couples and nobody takes much notice.
I voted Yay! Cross-cultural acceptance! because I suppose that’s closest to what I feel. Silly as it may be, the first thought in my head is, “There’s a good chance this lady/guy isn’t racist. Nice!” I mean, I realize they still might be racist, but there you go. . . I just generally assume they aren’t an asshole, fair or not.
Speaking as a white girl with a black boyfriend, I can say that the only real negative reactions we’ve ever gotten have been from a few black women. Otherwise, people tend to be way more chatty and friendly with him and me, as opposed to how it was in the past with my other boyfriends.
Because I know that there are a lot of people who think it’s wrong I tend to think “Good! The more (mixed) couples the better; I’d like to see us as a society get to the point where nobody thinks any worse than a couple with different hair color.”
I’m black, my wife is Asian. The reaction among other Black people who care enough to look/inquire is usually along the lines of “ooh, y’all will have some pretty babies with good hair”. The reaction among Asians who care enough to look (they never, ever inquire) tends to be “???”
Are you seriously thinking I was being Jerk, Ms. Ellen? I had no intention of being a jerk. I wanted to be humorous in my own way, but failed apparently. :smack:
I’d be interested in hearing from the two people who think it’s “unacceptable”
I always wonder what their kids look like if they have any, because they are almost always the most beautiful kids I have ever seen.
It appeared angry, confrontational, and jerkish, yes. Throw some smilies around and we’ll know if you’re joking.
I ogle, because there seems to be a high frequency of at least one of them being damn good-looking.
No matter which “race” is involved.
So, in other words, half the human race is damned good looking? I want to live in your town 'cause that aint the case anywhere I’ve ever been 
Depending on how you look at it, I either am or am not half of an interracial. That is, my wife’s has one black parent and one Jewish parent, but though you’d never guess she had any African ancestry to look at her, she self-identifies as African American. My ancestry is mostly African-American (with some white and American Indian thrown in), but I look am far more typically “black.” And in terms of culture (taste in music, choice of religion, preferred foods, etc) she is probably blacker than I.
I would have to ask, but I would suspect she doesn’t perceive herself as being half of a mixed couple the way that Seal’s ex-wife (Heidi Klum?) might have.
“Interracial” is not (necessarily) the same thing as “cross-cultural.” Comparing a same-race couple to an interracial couple, it is likely, but not certain, that the same-race couple’s cultural backgrounds are more similar.
I am part of an interracial couple myself, so of course I think they are fine. They are very common around here. In fact, just in my office, both the person next to me and the person behind me are in interracial relationships.
I vote ‘‘Yay!’’ It matters to me because racism sucks.