More on the beauty of interracial kids. What we perceive as beauty is just dominant genes. Recessive genes need to come from both parents to express. When the parents are from different gene pools there is a much smaller chance of recessives matching up. Wile dominant genes only need to come from one parent to express. So interracial kids literally get the best of both worlds.
I think it’s a violation of holy law, and God is watching.
Just kidding.
I know very little about genetics and have no reason to doubt what you’re saying but I must say I’m very surprised by how many people commented on how beautiful the babies of an interracial couple would be. Aside from that making no sense (to me), do people really find themselves speculating about the physical appearance of total strangers’ potential children?
People speculate about everything, Wooks. 
'tis true. Now that I thnk about it, I have found myself wondering what the offspring of two particularly homely strangers would look like.
In scientific terms, this is known as “Hybrid Vigor”.
I think it kind of works like this. No matter who you average, it smooths out the extremes and the result is almost always better looking.
I selected “just another couple”, but mainly because I’ve been in one for the better part of a decade.
For that matter, in my area, it’s not uncommon-- in fact, I’d say it’s been ever-increasing. Between my friends and I, we share quite a bit of diversity; the more significant interracial couples are as follows (with these, the race of the male was listed first, if that matters.): [ul]
[li]Asian (Filipino)/Hispanic[/li][li]White/Hispanic[/li][li]Black (caribbean)/Asian (Chinese)[/li][li]Asian/White and White/Asian (Chinese and another Korean)[/li][li]South Asian (Indian)/Black[/li][li]Black/White[/li][li]Black/Hispanic[/li][/ul]
In public, people are mostly indifferent, these days, though on occasion, you’ll see some stares. In private, there have been family issues, for some more than others, but not always linked to phenotypical race; many times there were/are associated cultural and religious hurdles.
One thing is for sure…beautiful children in all who have had them.
You know, I just assumed you were black because of another recent thread where you said you only date black men. I guess that’s what I get for assuming!
Like others, I’m part of an interracial couple, so I’m in favor of them. I think I might notice them more, at least the black/white couples, than I notice other couples.
And then I got everyone here referring to me as “he”! I thought fruit was pretty feminine because, I don’t know, just seemed like it would be. I’m going to change my user name to White Girl, just for accuracy.
I notice them and I wish I didn’t but I was raised being taught that it was wrong, so that’s probably the reason. My mom has this thing about how people of different races don’t look like they “go together”. So I notice it the same as I’d notice a beautiful person with an ugly person or a tall person with a short person.
My dude though…he’s actively embarrassed for us to be out with another black male/white female couple. And I…kind of know what he means.
I’ve been in inter-racial relationships, and I’m old enough to have got the daggers - and worse - from people, so I voted Yay for diversity.
What? NO!!! It’s a very masculine and intelligent name.
If you’re a rabbit ;).
I voted yay. I’m also part of a interracial/intercultural couple. The DC suburbs are very diverse, and mixed couples of all combos are common. We’ve never had negative attention, except maybe by some very old people. Sometimes cashiers, salespeople, etc think we’re not together, but it’s not like they’re even really paying attention.
The weirdest things that have happened to me were Asian women saying things like, “Is that YOUR baby???”
When we go out as a family, white woman & Asian man, plus our mixed kids, plus my grown white son and his black girlfriend, THEN people stare.
It makes me feel slightly uncomfortable when people comment that mixed couples have beautiful babies. I grew up with a lot of mixed kids of all kinds, and if their parents were ugly, so did the kids tend to be plain or ugly. (Of course, my mixed kids are gorgeous!)
Well now I learned my new thing for the day.
Yeah, I’m pretty ambivalent about this thing. It makes me a bit uncomfortable but it can be true. I’ve seen some hideous biracial people for sure, unfortunate souls who seemed to have gotten the worst of both worlds, but the stereotype doesn’t come out of absolutely nowhere either. But when people constantly tell me, referring to my gorgeous daughter, that “mixed kids are the cutest!”, I’m like fuck you, she’s cute because she’s cute, not because she’s mixed.
That shit started minutes after her birth and I am so not exaggerating. Every fucking candy striper in the hospital commented on her “beautiful skin tone” and a nurse told me that “blender babies” are always beautiful.
It’s honestly a great book if you’ve never read it. It’s generally lumped into the children’s literature section, but it doesn’t quite fit comfortably there.
It truly is what first comes to mind when I see your user name :).
“Just another couple” I’ve dated women from other races. The only part that matters about how she looks is whether I’m attracted to her or not. If other people find it a bit bizarre, I don’t care. And, really, I find the whole idea of “Yay inter-racial acceptance!” to be almost as bad as some version of “Hell no!” The reason being that it SHOULD be as acceptable as to be normal. That we might see two people of different races as something to celebrate means, to me, that we’re not quite there yet.
And that said, inter-racial is NOT the same as cross-cultural. I’ve dated women of other races that were raised here and aren’t meaningfully different culturally from some else around here, other than not being white, except for maybe a few random minor things as part of cultural pride or whatever. But I’ve also dated women who are from another culture, some white some not, and that is a much more difficult prospect. Sure, no one is going to think so much about two white people, but if one is from the US and one is from Eastern Europe, there’s going to be a lot more cultural issues than a white person dating a black person, both from the same state, at least from my experience. Yet, I don’t ever recall getting odd looks when with the former, but got plenty when dating the latter.
Mostly meh, with a side of yay, and a dash of thinking it seems really weird that in TV and movies they still like to prefer black love interests for black characters (especially in the far future, DS9!).
I will and have dated people of any race but I tend to date outside my own, both for aesthetic reasons and for anatomical ones.
In terms of noticing, it depends on context. In a multicultural or progressive setting, or in areas I frequent, I tend not to notice. I do tend to notice in media, and in settings that are otherwise notably conservative.
I’m gayish so people probably notice that aspect before ethnicity, but I tend to avoid PDA in settings where I’m not at ease so people may not even have realized we were a couple. I have experienced some light “reverse racism” when dating Hispanic guys from their peers.
As others have mentioned, cultural differences seem to be more of an obstacle than strictly racial ones.
The two women I dated as an adult were white like me. They were Jewish but not conservative so my goyness wasn’t an issue with their families.
I dated a Hispanic girl in junior high, and she was in retrospect physically obviously Hispanic looking, but at the time it didn’t even occur to me and no one brought up the topic in front of me. I was more concerned at the time about our social status as nerds. In fact, I think that at that time I wasn’t really even more than dimly aware of racial categories outside of black, white, Asian, and Indian.
I seem to be most attracted to medium brown guys (Hispanic, biracial, Indian), whereas I seem to attract black, Thai, and Philipino men.
Interracial relationships make me sad, especially when it’s a case of a person of color dating or marrying a white person. Whenever I that learn that a non-white person is in an interracial relationship with a white person—or someone else who sits “above” them on the pyramid of races—I can’t help thinking a little bit less of them. I can’t help being judgmental of the white person too. This antipathy is something that developed only within the last few years, but it’s a pretty strong one.
My distaste for mixed-race people began around the same time, but is even stronger. It’s hard for me to think of people I know to be mixed race with any positivity, and I’ve had some really awful, inhumane thoughts about mixed-race children and adults.
That said, I don’t harass interracial couples or mixed-race people. I don’t shoot nasty looks, I don’t stare, I don’t shake my head. I don’t move away when they stand or sit near me…well, sometimes I do move away. But I don’t attack, either physically or verbally, in real life or online. I also don’t believe that it’s wrong or sick or unnatural for a person to date or marry outside their race, or that this is something that should ever be outlawed. It just makes me sad.
And I thought I had issues.