I’ve always assumed it was just a girl from a small town or comes from a farming background.
But some of the contexts I’ve been hearing it in, I know it means something much more. A friend was bragging how he banged this girl. He said he actually like her and wants to date her for several reasons. One of the reasons is that she’s a “small town girl”.
Perhaps he means that she’s unpretentious. Or has conservative values that he likes. Or she’s less materialistic. Or she is familiar with difficult physical work.
I picture ‘small town girl’ as…I suppose ‘uncomplicated’ is the word.
A small town != rurality. To me, a small town could be big enough that you don’t know everyone, but small enough that you definitely will see people you know walking down the street.
Rural, on the other hand, to me, means a community without a downtown. For instance if you were from this place I wouldn’t quibble if you called yourself a rural girl (unless of course you’re a guy,) but if you were from this slightly larger town, then I’d say no, unless of course like others have said you are familiar with farming or other aspects of country life in which case you’re grandfathered in. But if you’re from here, then no. That’s a large town or a small city no matter which way you look at it.
Typically this means that (in general) there is the expectation that she is OK with the simpler pleasures and has lower dating maintenance requirements than a more demanding big city girl in terms of going fancy places and spending a lot of money (in whatever forms) on her.
There also a hint of the notion in “small town” that she will be comfortable with a more traditional old fashioned male/female relationship where she lets him take the lead.
Well. My sister and her family live just to the east of there. And her kids are absolutely growing up rural, has it’s charms and drawbacks both but, unlike my kids, her kids aren’t freaked out by bugs, mud or wildlife wantering through the yard.
My kids on the other hand are growing up in a town of about 160K, and are growing up essentially suburban, possibly “small town” in that we run into their teachers at the grocery store and their former soccer coach at the park, but not rural in that no one nearby has any livestock. We visit the major city nearby monthly. Unlike her kids, my kids aren’t freaked out by yelling, crazy, homeless people.