I like this. I told it to my mom recently because she’s depressed. I don’t know if it helped her, but it’s a lot better than telling yourself you’re just stuck and there’s nothing you can do.
Actually it reminds me of another thing I’ve seen posted on someone’s cubicle wall: “This isn’t a bunch of stuff I have to do…it’s a bunch of stuff I get to do.”
Best advice… ‘‘Never try to reason a man out of a position he didn’t reason himself into.’’ I think it was a Doper who said this to me. It has really helped me let go of a lot of inflammatory statements I’ve encountered on the internet.
Absolutely.
I’m retired in the UK (and have visited Vegas for the last 5 years ), due to saving/investing for 34 years - especially in my pension.
Don’t worry about things you don’t control.
This is hard to do - which of us has not spent sleepless nights worrying?
However if you can’t affect the outcome, use your emotional energy on things you can alter.
Pay off your credit card every month.
Credit cards are convenient (and using them can cover you for companies collapsing), but very expensive if you pay interest.
If you borrow, use a credit union, an overdraft or a mortgage.
Here’s one just for women I am still learning. Upon being asked "What is the most basic thing anyone can do to further women’s rights? the answer given us
“Always be good to other women. Never badmouth them to another women, don’t gossip about them.”
That’s not to say you should just lie down and take it, but address the problem straightforwardly and with the woman involved.
From my dad: [ul][li]Don’t borrow money to buy a depreciating asset.[]Never get involved with a woman whose problems are worse than yours.[/ul][/li]From my mom:[ul][li]Somebody has to be the grown-up.[/ul]From one of my managers;[ul][]It’s easier to apologize than to get permission.[/ul]Regards,[/li]Shodan
From my mother: “There are billions of people in the world. You aren’t going to like all of them. Not all of them are going to like you. But sometimes you have to get along with people you don’t like in order to get something done.”
From a second-grader: “If you ever go to the sun, don’t touch it. It’s hot.”
My parents’ pastor when I was a teenager told his son while I was there babysitting (so honestly it wasn’t even advice for me) “99% of everything is showing up!” This in reference to the crappy grocery store job the kid had - and indeed, within six months everybody who had started with him was gone, and he had moved up a bit after proving himself dependable.
“You’re too smart to be working in a coffee shop for 7 bucks an hour. Go to Manpower. It’s a temp agency but my friend went there and she ended up getting her dream job.”
“A man is not the one who can drink the most; he’s the one who knows when to quit.” - Mom
This one seem like an alternate version of a few of those above. You don’t have to prove anything to anybody. It took me a while to wake up and realize I was always the last one to leave a party. I was afraid I’d miss something.
“I’m the best friend you’re ever going to have.” - Mom
With obvious exceptions; A parents love is without limits. What’s even nicer is the day I hear my son say that to his daughter.
“Be patient, things have a way of working out.” - Mom
No matter how bleak; you make it through your crisis.
~sniff~ I miss my mom; who died 4 years ago this month (3/12/2008) .