“Maybe if you had let me go to the bathroom like I said I need to, before you got all “rambunctious”; you wouldn’t be so freaked out about the mess in your sheets!” Said to me by a guy I just met and took home back when I was first starting out…. I was really excited and naive about all the ins and outs of sex. 19 and fresh off the farm and all that…
I’d be wary of confusing correlation with causation.
A better explanation is that publicity about physician misconduct, perceived conflicts of interest and (possibly most important) declining respect for experts of all kinds is driving diminished status for physicians.
There’s evidence veterinarians are perceived more positively than physicians, and the majority of vets these days are female.
Well, if you’re right, good! That’s reassuring.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is not a one size fits all treatment. It helps some people with specific things, ex. breaking habits like self-defeating thought patterns. It also teaches one to gain better control of their mind and body through techniques like meditation.
It is not for everyone, and it should not be used to paper over genuine problems.
That’s why there are other forms of therapy like DBT, Gestalt therapy, etc.
There are other forms of therapy for the same reason their are thirty ways to treat warts - there is no single way that definitively works better than all the others. Of course therapy is more complex and multifactorial than warts.
For mild to moderate depression and anxiety, CBT works for most people most of the time. It does not work for every person. It’s not my favorite therapy, but I owe it a debt of gratitude for helping me get from a state of nonfunctional severe depression to being able to attend school and finish my undergraduate degree.
Interestingly, my therapist at the time recommended against it, because my issues were “too complex” she said, but Spouse Weasel was an aggressively evidence based budding psychologist, and he was like, “She’s full of shit. Try it. For the love of God, I’ll pay for it, just do something evidence based.” So I did.
I’ve heard rumors going around on TikTok (where facts about mental health go to die) that CBT isn’t effective for smart people, but there is no evidence to support that claim. For my part, I’m pretty fucking smart and it made a significant difference in my life.
But there are a wide range of evidence-based treatments available for depression and anxiety now, so it’s not like you’re stuck with CBT if you don’t want it. I’ve done what feels like all of them, and got something useful out of each. My favorite was ACT.
Pilot for Elon Musk’s first ship for Mars Colony. I think it’s still in ten years.
Whoever’s the boss of the aviator. So, CEO of United Airlines or Boeing.
(and kind of ironic since “Aim High” is the Air Force recruiting slogan)
Not “Aim On Target”?
When our child was born we had 2 nurses, a pediatrician and a lactation consultant all rather condescendingly say “here’s how you successfully breast feed”, like there was only one way to do it. Each one had a different method. 
We figured out that my wife could try a few things and see what the child was happy with.
As a kid being told “apply yourself”, in anything from advanced arithmetic or swinging a golf club or cast a fly fishing rod. It always came across to me as infuriatingly vague and condescending. Trite/pat as well.
I get the idea of “try your best and don’t be lazy”, but not the whole plod ever forward in the face of the absolute inability being able to “get it” thing.
I would say the worst and most condescending advice I’ve ever gotten is probably from nutritionists. #notallnutritionists to be sure–I’ve run into a couple of very sensible and helpful ones–but the inflexibility, the unscientific thinking, and the, well, condescension of some of the ones I’ve dealt with has been truly astonishing. And kind of alarming.
The whole era where “healthy snacks” had lower fat but extra sugar is regrettable.
There is much to answer for.
“We don’t know for sure at this point, but…” is a useful phrase. Not one I’ve heard very often, unfortunately.
The mention of nutritionists made me remember: shortly after Mr. Legend, who already had neuropathy in both feet and severe arthritis and back pain, was diagnosed with Stage 4 prostate cancer, his primary care practitioner closed her practice abruptly. In the process of trying to find a new doctor, we visited one who suggested he try cutting gluten from his diet.
Good Lord. Sorry you had to deal with that.
Sue Gwyneth Paltrow.
I’m colorblind. In a file clerk job I had in college, I was tasked with sorting some paperwork by the colors of a pale pastel sticky placed on each document. My workspace was also poorly lit. Still, I managed to complete the task with about (my estimate) 98% accuracy. My supervisor, who knew I was colorblind, told me that I would have to try harder. Yeah. It’s all about the effort.
(The solution, by the way, would be to use a sticky with a letter or number, more differentiated colors, or a decent lamp.)
Me (in Catholic high school): “I want to be an engineer!”
Guidance Counselor: “Your grades are poor, Crafter_Man. You need to go to a trade school.”
Me: “But I want to be an engineer!”
Guidance Counselor: “Sorry, it’s just not for you.”
I showed him.
Good for you.