My SO and I are driving each other crazy. I’m a morning person who hates to see her day ruined by getting up too late in the weekends; he is a night person who hates to see his weekendmornings ruined by my snooze-button.
I’ve heard that there are alarmclocks designed to wake one partner, but not the other who’s sleeping in the same bed. They are supposed to work with lights or a vibrating pad. I hear deaf people use them a lot.
Anyone have any positive experience with these, or know where I could buy one?
I sometimes put my cell phone alarm on for weekends, but only put it at volume 1. That never seems to wake my late night staying up husband but is enough to wake me up.
If you are a light sleeper, you shouldn’t have too much of a problem. My cell phone set on “one beep” is all I need while my wife sleeps through it. If your SO is a lighter sleeper than you are… separate beds it is for you
When I used to do shift work I had an alarm wrist watch. This used to buzz and wake me, but not my wife. In fact it clicked before buzzing and that often was enough to wake me.
That’s not very nice!
But to answer your question, I know couples in which the female wears earplugs to keep from being woken up my the male snoring. Probably not usefull in your case, but I had to throw something in so it wasn’t a pure hijack.
It seems that part of the problem (from your OP), is that you like to use the snooze button. Now there is a big difference between a SO’s alarm going off, then they shut it off and get out of bed so you can get back to sleep, and a SO who just hits the snooze button only to reawake both of you 9 minutes later.
You can even try setting the alarm on your cell phone, setting the phone to vibrate, and putting it under your pillow - it shouldn’t make a loud enough noise or enough shaking to wake someone sleeping next to you. But I agree that there probably isn’t an alarm out there that would let you snooze it a few times without waking your SO.
Forgive my indelicacy but proponents of the alarm with vibrator system must realise that a total shift of emphasis is required for this product.
A vibrator with built-in alarm would better satisfy the terms specified in the OP. Waking up alone at the appointed hour would ensure a stimulating yet punctual lifestyle for the busy woman of today.
I sleep through the alarm The Lizard Queen has set for 5:30, I wake up at 6 when she puts the coffee into my hands (yes, I’m a lucky bastard). I think this works for us because the alarm is on her side of the bed, set to a volume that wakes her, but not me. Also, I probably know in my sleep “that’s not for me” and am trained to sleep through it.
Maybe something in there is useful for you two.
Weekends it’s often opposite, I’m up and out of bed, while she sleeps in.
Check out www.invisibleclock.com.
I use one of these and it works pretty well; initially I would sleep through it sometimes but now I seem to have acclimated and it wakes me up OK. It is a big pain to reset if your wake time varies from day to day, though.
Well, there must be an alarm clock available that works by dipping the sleeper’s fingers in cold water…
Oh wait, sorry. That’s something else.
I do have a couple of serious suggestions for you. First, would it be possible for him to wear earplugs, as my SO does? Second, I use my cellphone for myself. I usually have it set on “meeting” plus vibrate, so it just emits a couple of beeps and vibrates. It isn’t that loud, but I have it on the nightstand right next to my side of the bed, and it’s never failed to wake me yet.
Yes, that’s the biggest problem. I like, no, make that need the time to wake up that the snoozebutton provides.
Following some of the links in this thread, I ended up with this gradual awakening alarm clock. It wakes by light, sound and smells and starts to wake the sleeper 30 minutes before the actual wakeup-time. So that would give me the snoozetime before the alarmsignal.
Feed them as soon as you get up, same person each morning. After about a week, the animal will be waking that person up at breakfast time.
I admit that this type of alarm clock is a real PITA to readjust for daylight savings vs. normal time.
Humorous as this may or may not be, I’m entirely serious. I only use a conventional alarm clock when I travel on business, or have to wake especially early for some reason.
Maastricht I have that light up alarm clock, I find it complex to use and the soothing sounds are repetitive (you can hear the point in the sounds where it restarts). but it is a nicer way to wake up then a standard alarm clock.
I think you really need to go to the heart of the matter and solve the snooze button issue rather then find new and inventive ways to wake both of you up.
I bought one of these babies for my GF because she* needed * one. And I say it like that because it was the newest and coolest thing she had ever seen and wanted to have one. What GF wants she usually gets.
It uses a progressively brighter glowing light, a serenity style sound effect (babbling brook, rain forest) that gets louder and louder, as well as releasing some aroma of your choice.
Personally, I think it’s a lot of nothing that costs me $50. But she loves it.
