Allow me to answer with a reference of my own.
In the new Ben Folds CD (“Songs for Silverman”), he sings, in the song Late, “The songs you wrote got me through a lot/Just want to tell you that.”
He’s singing about Elliot Smith.
I say it about Ben Folds.
When I was 26 (This was the last week of 1999…God, was I ever 26? I mean, shit, I’m almost 33 now), I was engaged. Over the course of a seven-day span, I lost:
- My job
- My car (which caught on fire)
- My fiancee, who ran off with another guy
- The comedy group of which I was a part
So, needless to say, I was devastated. I listened to Ben Folds Five pretty much non-stop. Specifically, I listened to certain tracks, like:
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Selfless, Cold, & Composed, for lines like “Come on, baby, just throw me a right to the chin…just one sign that’ll show me that you give a shit.”
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Song for the Dumped, which says, “So you wanted to take a break…slow it down some, and have some space? Well, FUCK YOU, TOO!”
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Mess, in which Ben says (and it’s a quote that I hold dear to my heart), “I want to be for her what I could never be for you.”
About a year (maybe a little longer) after all that happened, he released his first solo album (Rockin’ the Suburbs, which features a song called Gone, in which Ben says, “I thought I’d write, I thought I’d let you know/That the year since you’ve been gone, I’ve finally let you go[…]I know that you went straight to someone else, while I worked through all this shit here by myself.”
The Counting Crows played a big part, too, but Ben has a way of writing that just makes you say, “Shit! He’s verbalizing what I’m feeling, but can’t say nearly as well as he did.”