dyeing my hair is like buying a boat. Once you’re in, you’re all in. Now you’re saddled with the expense and PITA of having to have your roots touched up every few weeks. I am not an every-six-weeks-haircut kind of girl. When I’m growing it out (which I’m doing now), I might get a cut every six months to keep it shaped. So I don’t want the dye either because then I’m committed to continuing to dye and the fewer things I have to do on a regular basis like that, the better. I let my earring holes grow shut because it was too much responsibility to keep track of my earrings. I was constantly getting infections, losing earrings, etc. Finally, I decided that I am low maintenance and I shouldn’t be committing to fashion choices that require regular maintenance. What if my hair stylist is crap with color?
Which leads me to another rant about WNTW. I would give up my left ovary for Whatsisname to move to my fair city and cut my hair regularly. It has taken me nearly a decade to find someone who listens to me and cuts my hair in a way that’s flattering to me, and it took me damn near a year to train/housebreak her properly. I had several haircuts I wasn’t totally satisfied with, but she got closer to what I wanted each time, so I kept going back.
Finding someone who is truly talented with hair is quite difficult. I have bad hair because we don’t have $300 salons in this town. It’s all Cost Cutters and Aveda shops.
Sure, you can be as individual as you like, provided you do it wearing tailored, dress-pant-cut jeans with spike heels and a blazer. Or a dress with spike heels, ideally with a blazer. Or a tailored skirt with spike heels and a blazer. Changing the print of the fabric does not, imo, make something a markedly different outfit. Mileage obviously varies on that point, and apparently on the point that they give you shit if you dare object that these outfits are unattractive, impractical, or that awful word which must never be spoken…uncomfortable.
And the dress must have a V-neck, empire waistline, and an a-line skirt that flows away from the body to distract everyone from noticing your big ass. Sleeve styles are up to you depending on how much your biceps resemble croissants. If you have croissant arms, you’ll need long or 3/4 sleeves.
And if you have big boobs, you are not allowed to wear strappy anything, ever.
Loved the latest show with Erin, the country music writer from Nashville. Stacy shared about a horrible skin problem she had as a teen (skin literally splitting all over her body?! omg :eek: ) and cried a little as she talked with Erin about her own body issues (reconstructive surgery) and focusing on only the bad. They did a lot of talking with her about fitting her body shape (petite size, overweight) and how to make clothing work for you.
She had a breakdown about her hair length before the cut but the stylist helped her with her emotions, and she absolutely adored her new 'do.
Plus, hey, strappy sexy dress for an overweight and very chesty woman! She rocked it.
Sometimes I imagine people filming me secretly and having a big intervention, then I put on a different pair of pants to go to the mall.
You all have to keep in mind that no one is forcing anyone who shows up on tv to do this - I’m sure there are many people who are offered the opportunity to be on the show who turn it down because they don’t want to agree to the conditions. Once you’re in, I have zero tolerance for people who want to change the rules they agreed to.
What’s up with these women who go to pieces when the guy wants to cut their hair??? Some of these women have hair down to their nipples, and he wants to bring it up to armpit level and they absolutely FREAK OUT?? It’s HAIR! It will GROW! I cannot begin to comprehend it. And usually their hair looks like crap… multicolored, overprocessed, stringy, bad shape, limp, dead: awful. And they’re afraid Nick/Ted will make it look worse? It couldn’t possibly look worse!
And then after it’s cut and it’s still past shoulder-length, they go, “Oooo… it’s never been this SHORT before!!!”
Makes me nuts. It’s hair. It will grow. Try something new for a change.
This. I think these women think that they’re going to look like a man, or something, if they get it cut short. First of all, no, you’re not. Second of all, even if you did, just what the heck is wrong with a little androgyny? I have a pixie cut, so maybe that’s just a bit of a bias on my part, but I rather like having an almost boyish haircut and then pairing it with a cute dress or floral blouse.
The woman who was all depressed until she got her hair back the way she had it before the show annoyed the hell out of me. Not just because she wanted her awful haircut back, but because she seemed to think that men don’t like short hair. Honey, if the men you meet don’t like short hair, that’s THEIR goddamn problem. Personally, I think that’s a great dating filter: don’t like women with short hair? Then you’re not the bloke for me. And I’m not the girl for you. And that’s okay.
I can tolerate dying my hair, but that’s because my hair’s super short, and if I don’t like it (or don’t want to bother touching it up) I can just grow it out and chop it off again. I can certainly see it being an inconvenience to folks with longer hair, though.
But I think there’s a bit of “devil you know” in there. Especially the way they turn the women away from the mirror and surprise them with haircuts. If your hair grows slowly, it can take years to come back from a bad haircut. Thinking that you might be faced with a haircut you hate every day (and looks bad. Sometimes the haircuts are atrocious) for the next 2 years as compared to the not-flattering but familiar haircut that you’re already resigned to is a little scary.
When they agree to go on the show, they KNOW a new hairstyle is going to be part of it. You aren’t going to get an ATROCIOUS haircut from Nick or Ted. You may get something that doesn’t look like what you think you should look like… but if you were good at styling yourself, you wouldn’t have been nominated in the first place.
Re short hair: First of all, the show’s stylist rarely does anything as short as a pixie cut. Occasionally he will, but it’s when the woman has fairly short hair to begin with. I can’t think of a time when a woman with boob-length hair wound up looking like an Army recruit. The stylist m a y take 2-4 inches off hair that is down to the bottom of someone’s rib cage.
Also, there was one woman on a long while ago. Blonde, Southern, teased & sprayed hair. She kept saying she didn’t want it cut because her husband liked it long. Well she did get it cut and at the reveal her husband LOVED her new hairstyle. For one thing, it wasn’t shellacked to death and he could get his hands in it for the first time since 1979.
I think we’ll need to agree to disagree on this, because I have seen haircuts from both Nick & Ted that I’d consider atrocious. I also know that for me, 4 inches of hair are going to take 3-4 years to come back. I can see being excited (or at least interested) in $5k worth of clothes and still being apprehensive about the haircut.
I’ve had enough bad haircuts from people who were supposed to be wonderful to know that reputation and ability to cut my hair do not necessarily go together.
I do like that they are at least somewhat gentle with the people who are deathly afraid of changing their hair - I would guess they acknowledge that these are not people who embrace change easily.
It’s funny that when I was younger, I’d have considered the loss of a few inches of hair as a major tragedy, and now I just shrug and say, “It grows back.” Too bad I can’t switch hair with teenaged me and spare her some trauma, because I did have some god-awful haircuts.
