Hormones! I used to take Progesterone… after a few days, I was a raging lunatic - snappy, irritable, impatient, unforgiving… I researched the symptoms and Voila! I immediately stopped taking them. Doc said “oh, yeah, I forgot to mention they might make you homicidal”. Upped my depression meds instead, and my family thanks me for this. I have been properly chagrined.
Lack of sleep can do some really terrible things to an otherwise happy person. I find getting at least a little exercise helps me sleep. Can you drag Husband out for a walk in the evenings after dinner?
I’ll second all the other people who said to check with your doctor about tweaking your meds.
This thread has been a bit of a revelation. When I was in my first year of law school, I got divorced and had to get a job, on top of being in school full time and living in a city I didn’t know. In order to keep from being overwhelmed, I learned to think about one thing at a time instead of worrying about everything that I had going on. It served me well and I’ve always been good at “compartmentalizing” my stressors.
So, I haven’t really been thinking about everything that has been going on with me over the last few months in terms of everything building up. So, on the way home this evening, I thought about everything that’s been going on since June 1st, since that’s 3 months, and that’s about how long I’ve been an unbearable bitch.
-Most notably, the woman who has been my best friend for the last 22 years was diagnosed with breast cancer in June. The biopsy showed that it was a very aggressive cancer and she had to have a double mastectomy. She absolutely insisted that no one show any sadness, worry or concern over her. She didn’t even want get-well cards. I never told her how scared I was of losing her, and how bad I felt for what she was goig through. Her prognosis is very, very good, but she’s still recovering.
-The 5 year anniversary of my dad’s death in July.
-Also in July, the announcement that we are going to be furloughed, which means less money. We all know how overpaid public defenders are.
-July- bogus complaint from crazy client. Happily, I have the documentation to show it’s bogus.
-All while I’m preparing for a murder case that I tried two weeks ago. My 40-yr-old client took a crossbow into his mother’s bedroom while she was asleep and shot her in the back. He told the police it was an accident, so that was the defense we had available to us at trial. I actually kept the jury out for several hours over 2 days, but they ultimately found him guilty of murder and he got a life sentence. It’s always an emotional thing when a client gets a life sentence.
For the 3 or 4 weeks leading up to the trial, as well as during the trial, I started waking up at about 3 every morning. My brain (and pets) have now decided that 3 is when we’re getting up now, and I can’t seem to get out of that pattern.
-The weekend after the trial, one of my sisters came to visit. Of course, I hadn’t had the time or energy to clean, and she bitched about everything, including the choices we made about where to go for dinner.
I realize that I’m pretty lucky. I’m healthy, I have a husband who loves me despite my occasional bouts into bitchdom, and I have a job which, stressful as it is, I love. But, I really didn’t realize how much crap I’ve been dealing with 'til I sat down and thought about it. I think I’ll combine some of my zillion hours of leave I have accrued with my furlough days and take some time off.
Thanks for the perspective.
Dont feel so bad. Your husband was annoying. I would yell at him as well. Try to relax, take a break if possible! Check your hormones. And do some exercises. I am taking Krav Maga lessons and they are amazing! It feels great to throw some punches.
If she’s still mad after four years, I think more than a little relaxation is called for.
I know that I only re-confirm with certain people because, well, let’s say according to past experience, they’ve “earned” it.
Then again, I know someone that does this chronically with everybody. I used to try and fight it with light-hearted mockery, to becoming truly annoyed and short-tempered, until I realized it was a bit of a deeper issue, and now I just let them do what they need to do, and answer the same, three times in a row, every. damn. time.
God only knows if its his fault, your fault or some combination of the two.
But my EX was like that. She’d get mad about shit that shouldn’t even matter, much less something to get MAD about. Like wanting to make a phone call she didn’t think needed to be made. Me forgetting the most trivial things. Asking a simple question. Me having the audacity to want to put mustard and onions on my sandwich!
That crap gets old fast. And like others have mentioned you eventually feel like you are walking a minefield the whole time. Also getting mad at trivial shit makes you look like a real (insert bad word of choice here). Plus it pisses off the person you get mad at.
Its toxic to a relationship IMO.
I eventually had two epiphanies. One, I saw a couple arguing. About shit that did NOT matter (with the woman being the one pushing the arguement/keeping it alive). Then, someone complaining about a relative…“nothing is easy and everything is an arguement with her”. My gawd, is THAT what my future holds?
The relationship ended not to my surprise a few months after that.
You think your mad? Good chance the person you are getting mad at is pretty damn mad about your behavior too.
If this is a regular thing in the relationship you better fix it.
Like I said, don’t know the real facts in your relationship. Just giving you the point of view the “target” has.
Maybe you’ve always been like this and you’re just the last one to notice? Your Hubby seems to be scared to death of you.
This is a four-year-old thread. Presumably the OP has dealt with whatever by now; if she hasn’t, she’s welcome to open a new thread, but I’m going to close this one.