There is an excellent list of cognitive biases at Wikipedia but I cannot really find one recognized bias coverying the (I believe) common following error:
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Bias in question: the notion that other people pay more attention to you, on average, that you pay attention to them, on average.
For example: My SO, a veteran sauna patron, introduced me to saunas. She remarked that I seemed remarkably unbothered, for as sauna novice, to mingle with naked strangers of both sexes. My explanation was that I told myself that it is to be assumed that the others take as much notice of me as I take notice of them, i.e. very little. This looks to me like a very reasonable thing to assume, but it seems not to be shared by a lot of people.
It sounds like self-consciousness, but the linked Wiki article doesn’t exactly describe it as a cognitive bias. There might be a better term out there.
People who go to nude beaches tell me that’s the way it is. The clothed people get stared at, for everyone else nudity is the normal. If that’s what you’re talking about.
I don’t know of a particular term for this. Another good example is not drinking at a party (for whatever reason) and fearing others might notice/try and get you to drink. The vast majority of people are too self-absorbed to take any notice of what’s in your glass I find.
Are you referring to the Spotlight Effect Error?
That’s exactly what I looked for, thanks.