Just wonderin’…
When talking to a guy and his eyes do that everso quick scan of your body, do they really think that we don’t notice that???
Is it an uncontrollable reflex?
Do they know we notice it and just don’t care?
Inquiring minds wanna know!
Yes
Nope.
It’s totally and completely reflex. We’re sort-of ‘trained’ that we have to look at a woman’s body. In most situations, I tend not to look at the person at all anymore, which many people read as either rude or distant. 
That’s interesting that you say you notice…I know for a fact that I’ve “scanned” many of my female friends…and being the decent (I’m aware of the irony) fellow I am, I’ve kinda felt bad about that…so I asked them if they’ve ever notcied…and none of them have…
As for it being an untrollable reflex I’d have to agree that it is…especially when women wear shiny necklaces - if I see the light reflect off the necklace I immediately tilt my head to see what the source of this light is…
All the interesting parts are below your neck.
If you don’t want us to look, don’t put it on display. That’s what baggy clothes are for.
There is an automatic scan of every woman met, and an immediate assessment of “works for me” or not. This usually includes a full body scan, even if it has to be done with peripheral vision.
This is true, period, as far as I know, and I say that as one of the most churchified people on this board. It’s a given.
Of course, I’m still single, too, but even my very proper dad has been teased into giving a little grin that let out that he had been doing it too, and that was after 20 years of marriage and four kids. He also didn’t act like he didn’t know what I was talking about when I commented on my smoking hot second cousins that we saw only about every 5 years (so they were like strangers).
magnet : iron :: eyes : boobies
My eyes start at the face, leap down to the breasts, pause very briefly there, then leap down to the legs, taking in the turn of the thighs, hips, and that magic sweet spot where everything comes together, then my eyes reluctantly–but quickly, aware of the need for speed and not appearing to be an ogling ogre–traverse across the abdomen, revisit (briefly) the cleavage, to see if anything has changed, and then back up to the face to make sure the captivating smile and sparkly eyes are still doing what they’re supposed to.
I hate to brag, but I’m an absolute expert at this process and I can attest that
- it’s completely involuntary and irresistible;
- women are completely unaware that I’m doing it;
- I love to do it;
- every woman (except mom and sister) holds this brief siren-like sway over me. The attractive ones evoke repeated responses.
Don’t most women do something similar with men? I mean, it’s simply not possible to fail to notice a woman’s general shape and appearance and nice parts. I apologize in advance to any I’ve offended–I’ll try to remain covert.
Eh, I don’t really see what’s wrong with looking at somebody’s body unless it’s a professional situation. I mean, we are sexual creatures and all. It’s not like the person being looked at, if they’re from this planet, should be shocked that you occasionally appraise others sexually in a social environment. And you have no idea how much effort went into getting used to clothes and refraining from leg-humping.
I think we do it without even thinking about it, frankly.
1 of 2 things:
i am either talking to you because we work/study together, in which case you will never catch me quickly scanning you. because i am not going to do it until you can’t see my face.
or, we’re not working together, in which case the scan will not be so quick and i will not even try to hide it very much. if you have problems with me looking at your body then i aint getting shit out of you, so why am i even talking to you in the first place ?
I check girls out. But not guys. I dunno.
*Is a girl.
As a female, I have to admit I “check out” guys in a similar way. The first thing I look at are his eyes, then his mouth. I then look at his hands and if he’s not wearing shoes or socks I will somehow take a peek at his bare feet. (Don’t ask about that last one, I don’t know why!).
If given the chance I also check out his crotch, but that’s a little tricky, that one! Once they’re walking away, I’ll also make a point of looking at his bum.
Mind you, I must say, I only do all that looking if it’s a guy who I find interesting or attractive generally, in the first place.
I must add, I too notice guys looking me up and down. With some guys, it doesn’t bother me in the least, but with ones that appear to simply ogle, I do feel rather uncomfortable. I feel that to catch what I perceive, a guy looking me “up and down” can sometimes be a little bit of a confidence boost… because if you were not in the least bit attractive to them, they wouldn’t probably do the “full body check”! 
the URGE to look/scan is indeed a reflex, but i do not have any problems intercepting that urge in time because i ANTICIPATE it.
and what about fixing your family jewels in public, is that an uncontrollable reflex too? i have that one in check too.
i say you either don’t care ( which is 100% fine ) or you’re a retard ( which is not so good ).
So, you’re not looking into our eyes trying to establish a rapport, you’re just checking to see what we’re looking at so that you can judge us on it.
finally somebody with common sense. in fact i sometimes feel obligated to give the full body check so that a girl don’t feel neglected 
Do I detect a hint of sarcasm there,** vasyachkin**?! 
Well, in my case it is in a professional situation, and they do it every day - I mean, one would think they’d get a jist of what the goods are like the first couple of times they did it…
:dubious:
I wouldn’t call it reflexive. One of the few times I’ve actually gotten laid was because I looked at her eyes instead of her tits. Lucky me she had beautiful eyes. I think that, technically speaking, reflexes aren’t actually governed by the brain. The central nervous system is involved, but only in the spine. That’s what I recall from several neuralpsych classes anyway.
Where was I? Oh yeah, your tits. Do you really think guys don’t notice when you cry out the illegitimacy of their hard wiring? Guys are visually stimulated. They suffer from testosterone driven horniness. They’re gonna look.
It would be polite, IMO, to return a guy’s attention to your eyes, if need be, in a kind manner. It is shockingly easy to completely lose all sense of time and perspective, and being brought back to reality is helpful. (It happened to me with a professor once I was a teaching assistant for. I was terribly embarrassed, but it didn’t cause any problems that I was aware of. Think of snapping at a co-worker because pre-menstrual hormones have you on edge. It’s just part of being human and no harm done.)
There are creeps of course. But just because some women are uberbitches, we can’t jump to the conclusion that hormone modified moods aren’t a legitimate part of the female experience. The same distinction is true between creeps and the rest of the men out there.