My HS junior son son always got good grades in math his freshman and sophomore year when he took algebra I and geometry. But in those classes they did almost all the homework in class. This year he took algebra II and will most likely get an F this semester. Granted, this year it was a VERY hard class. Frankly I think the teacher has gone too fast and wasnt spending the time making sure all the kids were learning and indeed, about 1/3rd the class is failing along with my son. This class the majority of the grade is based on tests, not assignments. I had noticed this about mid semester and I emailed his teacher asking what he could do. She said while he has been a “good” kid in class (meaning not causing trouble) he hasnt been the one to ask questions or come in for extra help so thus, he has been doing poorly on most of the tests. My son of course blames the teacher. Blames the fact that algebra is a waste of time (granted the kids are required to take this course along with 3 math credits to graduate). The teacher offered to help him if he came to see her before or after school which he only did maybe once.
I told him yes, this course is harder than before. Yes, its a topic you might never use in real life. Yes, the teacher’s assignments make it difficult. But you know I told him - that’s LIFE. Sometimes college courses and jobs require asking questions and going above and beyond and he shouldnt expect everything to go easy. I told him repeated times to 1. raise his hand in class and ask questions 2. ask me for help at home and 3. go in before school and after school to work with his teacher. Heck I even offered to pay for a tutor to help him. But damn, this kid is stubborn. He would rather just sit on his ass watching tv and wouldnt do what I told him.
But I’m not doing anything to bail him out. He has to learn that yes, school is sometimes hard, teachers and courses might be VERY difficult and even boring, and one must be proactive from day 1 of class in making sure you learn the material. Every assignment counts.
Well anyhow I will try to help/push him and maybe to help him squeak by this semester with a D then do better next. If not, well he will be retaking the course either next summer or next year. Tough lesson to learn about shutting off the tv and doing your work but best learned here not in college.
So I’d like to ask the other parents, have you had a similar situation with your kid when they wouldnt do work and their grades suffered? How did you handle it?