What to do with a wedding ring

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Originally posted by racer72
Threw mine from my first marriage into the Pacific Ocean about 20 miles off the coast of Baja California.

We’ve nearly got the four points of the compass covered! I chunked mine into the Atlantic Ocean, about three miles out from Miami. Anybody toss one into the Great Lakes?

I sold mine at a pawn shop, got nearly nothing, but it would cost almost nothing for the next guy and gal who wanted to get married and didn’t have a lot of moolah.

I bought a new one today.

Last night I dreamt I was at an old, abandoned, flooded castle. It was made of dark gray stone and had small dark gray pebbles covering the floor. The water was clear and very cold, and I would suck in deep breaths and dive down and sift through the pebbles. For some reason, I was there looking for jewelry. I found three rings, two with diamonds, and two pendants.

I blame/credit this thread. :slight_smile:

My mom gave us (the three daughters) one part of her three piece wedding set.

I had the (very thick 70’s style band) melted down into a band for my husband’s wedding ring.

that worked for me :slight_smile:

I had mine made into a pendant. I still have and wear my mom’s engagement ring tho, on my right hand. That one I’ll never get rid of.

I still have mine. I look at it frequently. Sometimes it is still hard to believe I’m divorced. I just knew that it wuld never happen to me. I keep it because I want to know there was once a man I loved enough to share my entire heart and soul with. I guess I feel like Egad, a failure. However, there were good times and there was love or there wouldn’t have been a marriage in the first place. I choose to remember that there were good times. The bad stuff is just too depressing. And it’s not really that bad, considering most divorces. It was private and quiet and not public and messy. I guess that was because we never lost respect for one another through it all.

Geez…what was the question again? Oh yeah, the rings I still have both of them. Sorry to ramble.

I’ll probably never get one, so you could give it to me. :stuck_out_tongue:

Just a scrap of advice from a 20-something guy with no real urge to be married any time soon and very little family experience with this type of issue. Perhaps that will paint me as impartial.

I think the wisest thing to do is nothing at this point. I agree with the statement above that you should just toss it into your safety deposit box and leave it be for a year or so. The chances may be slim, I don’t know your personality, but its possible that you might regret doing something frivolous or callus with it in these emotional times. Once its out of the house, out of sight and mind in some bank somwhere, any emotions it might conjour should less common and less poingiant. However, with that option it gives you the chance to perhaps one day pass it on to your daughter, or keep it yourself as a token of some importance if the notion becomes more appealing.

In any case, I wouldn’t suggest doing anything rash under the heat of the moment, as it were. Just my $0.02.

Go with your heart. Certainly, keeping reminders of an unhappy episode was, I felt, out of the question.

I took mine to a charity shop and asked them to sell it. Made me feel good about something which could have been quite upsetting. Best of all, I gave it to the charity which supported her mother as she was dying so it was a charity that meant something to me.

No but I can. I actaully have two rings, she wanted two different ones, one white gold and the other a mix of white and normal. I’ve been seperated for 1.5 years and divorced for almost two months now. Mine sit in a box, in my closet. I guess I could send one to the bottom of the lakes.

Have it melted and reworked into another ring, or a pendant.
My engagement ring was melted down and reworked into a teardrop pendant. The diamond is put away for future use.

It did almost go sailing into a lake, but I couldn’t do it.

I guess I do not see it as failure. When the rings were purchased there (I’m hoping) was much love and anticipation for the future. So what if that fell apart. The rings were bought out of love and they still represent THAT time in your life also.

I took mine to Mister Money USA and got $50 for it. I had no desire to keep it or to pass it on to my daughter (who was only 1 1/2 when I divorced) and I really didn’t want it to end up in the river or anything. At least by taking it to the pawn shop someone else can maybe get some use out of it and not spend much money on it.

Do NOT throw a valuable wedding ring into a body of water. There is symbolism, and then there is jewelry. It is vitally important not to confuse the two. At least sell it. Putting it into your savings account is a good way to remove the emotional stain from money. It works on the same principle as money-laundering.

I’ve only ever had one ring survive the relationship (one shattered, one got lost). I kept it, and wear it frequently. It’s pretty.