I was a very responsible child. Either that, or my parents didn’t care about me. I choose to believe I was a responsible child. I was the first of all my friends to do all those little independant things - to get the bus on my own, to be left home alone, to go into town on my own. When I was nine I would get the bus into town and go to the cinema on my own. I saw the Mutant Ninja Turtles movie twice. That cinema’s closed now. They turned it into a bingo hall.
I got to stay home alone from about the age of ten. I never got in any trouble. I like being on my own. Or I had friends over and they’d lie and say that my parents would be watching us. Charlotte and I smoked while our friend Sarah coughed dramatically.
Despite being small for my age, I was very persuasive. I smoked from the age of eleven. I got cigarettes by conning the man at the newsagents into thinking I was an abused child whose mother would beat her if she didn’t bring home her cigarettes. True story. My mum found my cigrettes once and marched down to the newsagents and screamed at him, confirming my cleverly painted picture of her as a psycho. Don’t worry, I’m not proud of this.
But I was never the kind of kid who snuck out or anything. I never had a curfew and it always just made sense to me to simply do what I supposed to and actually told my parents where I was going and what time I would be home, or if I was staying at a friends. I never saw the point of worrying them unnecessarily.
My mum went into hospital when I was 14 and spent several years in and out of them. My dad and I worked out a pretty good system whereby we lived around each other. He didn’t worry if I didn’t come home and I didn’t worry if he didn’t. And I wasn’t out stealing cars and taking class A drugs. I was just out with friends. Doing class C drugs. We lived that way for four years until I left for university, other than the interludes when mum came home. In some ways it was a pretty good way to be a teenager.
I was an independant kid. What were you like?