Because he thinks that’s how blue collar people behave. I’m not sure who it insults more, construction workers or women.
I’ve been sick over this all weekend. I’m just about thisclose to quitting. I don’t know if I can even go in there on Monday. This is just overwhelming me right now.
Also, there is no way in hell that Dick would ever quit, and I really don’t think they’d fire him. He’s been there a long time and holds a fairly important position. He would be difficult (although not impossible) to replace.
I’m not sure how we got on the topic, but I asked my husband, a Construction Safety Officer, about construction workers hassling passersby, and he said that that is a big no-no on the jobsite these days. Just an FYI.
I’m so sorry to hear that - like I said earlier, I know exactly how that feels. If you’ve had enough, you’ve had enough, and it’s time to quit with no regrets. It’s a job, not a marriage or a family that you need to invest more time and effort into working things out.
If it makes you feel any better, after I quit my rotten job, I got one of the best jobs of my life, where I was making buckets of money for fairly easy work with some of the funniest people I’ve ever met. After you leave a bad situation, you usually find yourself wondering why you bothered to stay so long.
I could have pushed harder for my jerk of a boss to be held accountable for his actions. I may even have gotten somewhere.
But after nearly 3 years of putting up with his crap, and following the proper procedures for disputes, and getting nowhere - I gave up on asking for something to be done about HIM, and I asked for something to be done for ME.
Hence, my reporting to someone else.
Many many people urged me not to give up, to keep on fighting, to be strong, etc etc, just like many people are urging you on this thread. And I agreed with them for a long long time and put myself through hell, and made myself sick, and depressed, and ended up with bad performance appraisals on my file … It was SO not worth fighting and I should’ve just left as soon as I could, instead of staying in his department to prove that he couldn’t beat me.
But honestly, truly, there are other jobs out there, and other solutions, and I agree that life is MUCH too short to beat your head against a brick wall.
I really hope that Monday is better than you expect - I’ll be thinking of you.
Whistleblowers NEVER get promoted. Last thing Dicks boss wants is someone who is willing to go to his boss and reporting his poor behaviors and or errors.
Something else to consider, If Dicks boss hired Dick, he probably thinks Dick is an OK guy.
Who would you want to hire, someone better than you, someone worse than you, or someone just like you…
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Conversations between levels of bosses like this often consist of little more than, uh dude, dial it back a little, and let the rat sweat for a few weeks, maybe s/he will quit and solve our little problem for us.
Yeah, I don’t know. I’ve only been there for three months, so it’s not going to be a big loss if I do end up quitting. I’m going to test the waters there tomorrow and see how it goes.
I’m really thinking about getting some no stress job and just cutting back my spending. It would be worth it not to have to deal with office bs. I feel like that guy from Office Space when he decided to go work on the construction site. Oh how liberating it would be.
If you just need a break between career-related jobs, you might want to consider temping. Sure, it can destroy your soul if you let being treated like a disposable employee bother you, but on the other hand, whatever crap goes on is not your problem - you’re done there in a couple of weeks. If you got a fairly high-level secretarial type job, where you’re doing a lot of document work and editing, your journalism skills would be very useful.
Best of luck tomorrow, whatever you decide.
I can also check with my bosses if you’d like. I work for a trade publisher, and we have a few editorial positions open right now. You probably couldn’t work as a regular employee with benefits (they like all employees to work on site in South Florida), but they might hire you as a contractor. Let me know if you’re interested – my e-mail’s in my profile.
Good luck to you, Indygrrl. I’ve had to work in a hostile environment, and it wasn’t fun.
Life is too short to work somewhere that is causing you this much heartache.
If you are going to leave anyway, pursue something legally (through a labor board or something).
At least make sure things change in your leaving.