If you found out someone was searching your name and following you around on your favorite messageboard without telling you? I’m just curious, because this has recently happened to me. I’m wondering why someone would have so much time on their hands that they would look up someones name on a messageboard they’ve never cared about, just so they can see if they can find some dirt on that person.
To me, it’s pretty sneaky and underhanded, and also a bit psycho. I, personally, would never do this, because I don’t have that much time on my hands, nor do I really care that much. This person, however, seems to think it’s fine and normal and an ok thing to do.
I would assume that person has some kind of agenda in mind and try to figure out ways to block any further intrusion. Do you know this person? How did you find out about it? Have you done some online searching on yourself to see how much info is out there that’s easily retrievable so you can, perhaps, delete or change some of it?
I’m so sorry to hear about this and I hope you’re okay–sometimes the Internet is a very creepy place.
It’s someone I used to consider a friend, until I realized that her only motive in life is to find/create drama. And that is probably what this is about.
Evidently, she thinks I’m not smart enough to figure out what she’s doing. She is wrong.
What if you just confront her (assuming you dont’ feel it would be dangerous for you to do so)? Tell her you know what she’s doing and would like to know why.
I’m not sure why you invoked my name? Do I know you?
I’m confused. You say this is someone who never cared about you but have decided they have desire to look up dirt on you.
Oh wait, do you think it’s “Sex Camel” girl? Or the showerhead masturbator? If so, and they are looking up your posts it might have more to do with dirt on them than dirt on you. Do you think somebody could have clued them in? I mean, this is the internet after all and maybe you are not as anonymous here as you think.
I don’t know, but what “dirt” could they possibly find here? I mean, are you different here than in real life? Is there some major revelation they’re going to find? I wouldn’t worry about it if I were you. If it’s somebody you once considered a friend, they probably can’t find anything more here than they already know. Or maybe you’re just paranoid.
If you are absolutely certain that the person is stalking you on line, can a PFA help? Can the mods block the IP address of that person, if known, on the message boards you frequent? Short of that, I’d hold off on posting anything personal or remotely personal, such as hints about your location, address, place of employment, salary, posessions, etc. But it seems that this person would already know this, based on your last post.
Kalhoun - I believe you have fallen into a common board fallacy.
a) Indygrrl brought up Wilhemina first.
b) Wilhemina may have few posts, but they are over several months and quite varied. There is no hint of stalking I can see.
c) Indygrrl talks about suspecting a friend, presumably not Wilhemina. I think it is up to Indygrrl to do more explaining before you ask Wilhemina to.
I know it’s my “friend” because I was told about it by a real friend. Also, the second I found out about it I posted just to see if I could get her to come out of the woodwork. Sure enough, she did.
She cares so much that she is being talked about that she will come on here and act like it’s not her. I think that’s psycho. Funny, she would assume that I’m talking about her on both counts, especially since she knows I do other people’s hair besides hers.
If I have a problem with someone, I talk to them like a normal person, not go around behind their back and look at all 1020 posts they’ve made on a messageboard I care nothing about.
I DON’T have anything to hide. But when you go talking about me to my friends, I will find out about it. Get a fucking life.
d) as to “how she knows about you” - When you search for your own name, to see if someone has responded to any one of your posts, and your name turns up, you go to that thread. When you seem to be implicated in something, you push the Search button under your accuser and Ta-Da you know all there is to know about that person. Where’s the mystery?
But from the looks of things, Indygrrl has had some things to say about the suspect behind her back as well otherwise why would her other friend have said anything at all? Self-fulfilling prophecy?
John Barley–yes, that is a normal thing to do. I have certainly done that on occasions where I want to know a little more about a poster.
What is not normal is “finding out” your friends username on a messageboard and searching all of their posts. That’s weird. I mean, for one, we know how long it takes–the SDMB is a bit slow when it comes to searches. That’s a whole lot of effort. I think it’s sneaky and underhanded to do it and then blab about it to other people.
And I’m just amazed that you will sit here and lie about it, Wilhemina. You didn’t even cross my mind until I was informed as to what you were doing. So, “self-fulfilling prophecy” doesn’t make sense. I’m sure you’ll find a way to justify this, but it won’t matter to me.
It does seem like a lot of effort to search through that many posts. Perhaps someone told them there would be something to find and linked them to the offending post? And how old is the offensive material? Does it date back to the beginning of your posting, did they have to go back that far if indeed that is it.
Why not confront me if you think I’ve said something? Why just sit there and continue to lie? At this point, saying that someone masturbated really pales in comparison to what is going on here.
