Actually, I have had this thought too.
I once saw a movie where a woman went to an gyn. He was a creepster and a half, and what happened was, when she went to him, at one point he removed his glove and performed the exam with his bare hand.
Well, when she went home she somehow (I forgot all the details) figured it out or put all the details together and ended up feeling violated. And so she launched a court case against him.
This made me stop and think. Really think.
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[li]If she had never realized it, would it still be a violation?[/li][li]Come to think of it, was it a violation in the first place? Yes, he put his bare fingers into her. She was expecting him to put his gloved fingers in her. How much of a difference was there, really?[/li][li]Of course intent makes a difference. An exam for the sake of an exam is one thing, but an exam for the sake of being able to finger some pretty one is a different thing.[/li][li]Still, was she hurt? There was emotional harm, sure…but fairly slight.[/li][li]Would it bother me? Well…yes. Enough to launch a court case against him? I’m not sure. Enough to tell all my friends and never to go back again, yes. I mean, he still did the exam, thoroughly, and did everything he needed to do - he was basically copping a feel in a vulnerable position from a stance of authority.[/li][/ul]
Back and forth I went on it. The woman in the movie (I think) did a fairly credible job. She even felt guilty at times. When she launched the court case a whole bunch of other women came forward and said he’d done similar things to them.
He lost his business, his reputation, and his livelihood. Fair enough, he shouldn’t have been practicing anyway. But when he ate a bullet all the questions arose once again in my head.
It still comes to me sometimes…if she had never known, was she hurt? Not ethically, morally, or legally, just straight out was there any damage if she never knew? Perhaps it’s black & white to some but not so much to me.