What's so BAD about the SDMB?

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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There seems to have been a recent rapid evacuation of the SDMB over the last month or so. We’ve lost a few of our best posters, Kellibelli (who came back, thank God), PurpleCrackWhore (who’ll probably NEVER come back, she ain’t happy, and she’s been spreading it allover Snopes), I even saw Wally at Snopes, though I think he was just visiting. What’s been driving all our friends away? Was it the Troll Wars we recently fought, which we’re now seeing the tail end of. The Waith of God Crash tests we’ve endured? The new “understood” rules we’ve been enforcing? What? What can we do to keep others from losing interest? How can we raise the spirit of the board above what it has been lately?

Ophanim
Not Voted, **Coolest, Dumbest, Happiest, Drunkest, Surliest, Gayest, Most Godly, or anything else! ** Damn you all to HELL!

Where’s my side of FUN!?
Kisses!
Ophy

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A free beer with each post? :wink:

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And I thought I padded my post count now…

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Yeah because i mean it was like all i did was ask what was the name of the band that Paul MaCartny was in before 'Wings" and everybody all the sudden got all kinds of rude like I was stupid or something. And its just cause your some kind of hyper genius doesn’t mean that everybody else is and so you have some right to get all snotty. Thats why nobody wants to hang around anymore is what I think cause your all like some kind of click and your just not nice to peoples who just ask innocent questions is all.
Love,
Kurt Complain

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There have only been a total of 4 posters that have left this board. The rest just went over to Snopes to check it out after friends invited friends. I don’t think that we’ll lose any of our present posters to that board on a permanent basis. For one thing, the regs on that board have made it clear that while newbies are welcome, they didn’t appreciate the onslaught of newbies within the last few days. I’ve been to Snopes plenty of times, just not to the message board until last weekend when a couple of friends invited me. I may lurk there some, and may even post there. But there’s nothing like the SDMB home. This is the best board I’ve found with so many different forums and I plan to stay around for a long while. Besides, I love you guys.

** Sigh. So many men, so few who can afford me ** Original by Wally

I’ve learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it.

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LOL, DrWatson! I almost fell for that and was THISCLOSE to flaming you before I got a clue.

Lemon Drop Martini: 2 Parts Absolute Citron, 1 Part Cointreau, juice of half lemon. Shake with ice and strain into chilled, sugared martini glass.

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[HIJACK}

Aaaargh! You’ve hit one of my pet peeves here. A martini is a drink that involves gin, at least a reference to vermouth, and either olives or a twist of lemon peel. No concoction involving vodka, Cointreau, and lemon juice can rightly be called a martini. Also, the glass is called a cocktail glass.
[/HIJACK]

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Ahem… you’re also pulling in a few sharp newbies :slight_smile: “Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other gold!”

(Don’t ask me how I know this!)

Time flies like an arrow. Fruit flies like a banana.

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You used to be a Girl Scout, SD? :wink:

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I cant abide conflict.

I dont mean troll-flaming, or even a heated dispute… What I cant handle is outright hostility. When someones feelings get hurt, that kind of thing.

Ever since I can remember, I have avoided conflict and confrontation, to the point that it has interfered in the living of my life.

Since we got the news about mom, the good news, I have totally fallen apart. I mean train-wreck. Once the cancer was not FEAR#1, that all present, all consuming presence, I had nothing to hold me up.

My oldest son is very messed up, I mean future Daumer type messed up. Shitboy pops in to see them every couple of months, ignoring xmas and birthdays, never calling etc. Ted has alot of anger toward him, which he cannot express to someone he misses and loves, but only sees rarely, so I get the brunt of it…me and little frankie. :frowning:

I have constant headaches, I havnt been sleeping, and when I do, graphic sexual dreams of shitboy chase me until dawn, leaving me feeling dirty to an extreme.When I try to get up in the morning, I cant, I have been late for work for weeks (just by minutes). The dreams were triggered by a call from Shitboy demanding that I send my 9 &4 years old messed up little boys across the country for 2 weeks to stay with him and whoever he is seeing at the time. I said “no”, causing him to berate me furiously (conflict - see the problem here?).
This was about the time Ted got suspended (in-school, this time) and I had to go meet with all the important folks at his school. Dad came with me thank God, or I might not have been able to go through with it (more confrontation - see a pattern?)

In the months leading up to all this was Opals problem, so publicly played out in the pit. Hurtful things were said, not to or about me, but I felt them just the same (conflict again), then there was the horrible love triangle business that nobody speaks about which appears to have cost the board 3 posters, 2 of whom we saw daily, then the Melin thing…
I dont care who was right or who was wrong, thats not really what bothered me. It was the way everyone ripped into everyone else (again conflict).

I needed to distance myself as much as I could from all things upsetting, I had to start taking care of myself and my family, because I didnt have this : “well Mom’s dying, so nothing else matters” excuse anymore.

So I went to the doctor and I am back on anti-depressants after almost 3 years. I cant say I feel better, but I dont have the horrible death fantasies that I had before. Ted is going to go to a child shrink, and we are both going to get some counselling. There isnt anything I can do about the Shitboy stuff…sadly my hands are tied. I have no legal recourse at this time that wouldnt literally take years. So I have resolved to contain any discussion of the children to letters. That way, I dont get yelled at, and he has to have an address - (good for future legal stuff. So far, I still have no address for him.)

I was going to give up my internet connection all together, but Angie talked me into keeping it, “for chat” she insisted. I think she knew when I was a bit better I would come back. She knows me pretty well.

So I came back. I am still not myself, I dont know who I am, but it will get better. I cant say I wont split again if things get ugly again though, I get plenty of ugliness in ‘real life’. I prefer my recreation to be of the non-uglyness type.

I hope this makes sense.
I dont always make sense lately. Its the medication I think. Sometimes I forget my train of thought, and sometimes I react innapropriately to given situations.
Gotta tell ya, it fun to watch!
“cant find my glasses” - watch her cry.
“that kid is gonna tip his shopping cart over!” - watch her giggle.

I will be fine though, and I am very glad to be back. You have all been so gracious about it. I love you guys.

Tee Hee, Micheal Masterson is on Snopes now.
I laughed my fucking ass off! Is that an innappropriate reaction? It is funny right? I mean they were bothered by our mundane stuff, and now MM is there…

Someone tell me they think its funny…
I’m not crazy…the voices said it was funny!

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Actually, if you go back over the whole year that this board has been up (plus the 3+ years that AOL had an active link to its earlier incarnation) you will see that there is a constant flux of posters.

We lose people when they change jobs and lose access, when they suffer computer failures, when they find something a bit more interesting to do with their lives, when they find someone who is more interesting in their lives, when they find a different board or newsgroup that strikes a more responsive chord with their personality, when they find that their own personal favorite topics are not getting the responses they’d like to see, when they get mad that some contentious troll is allowed to post so often, when they get mad that some lively debater has their posting rights suspended, when they’ve seen the same question asked for the 35th time, when they have seen the same debate posted without resolution for the 25th time.

There are occasional incidents in which several people will make very visible exits. That, however, tends to simply call attention to the fact that people are always coming and going.

At the same time, new people are constantly wandering in. muaahaahaahaahaahaa

I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Just try to make anything you post as interesting as possible (do as I do, not as I say), and enjoy it while you enjoy it.

Tom~

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Kells I think it is very funny that MM turned up in Snopes. That tells me it has to be a ‘reg’ here, how would he have known about that site? Especially when so many here were talking about it. He can’t lurk here under MM because he was banned, so it has to be someone that has another avenue to SD. They seem to be handling it very well.

** Sigh. So many men, so few who can afford me ** Original by Wally

I’ve learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it.

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What Tomndebb said.

Wisdom is the boobie prize,they give you when you’ve been --unwise!

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He can’t lurk because he was banned? No, he can’t post because he was banned. You don’t have to be registered to just read.

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ultress, banning only prevents one from posting. Anyone with internet access can read these boards.

(JohnJohn/Cyberian54 came back and read these boards for at least two weeks after he was banned so that he could go over to a.f.c-a and m.f.s-d and post whiny little tirades about how the terrible things happening on this board.)

Tom~

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oooo sorry guys…thanks for setting me straight. I don’t know where I got that idea from.

** Sigh. So many men, so few who can afford me ** Original by Wally

I’ve learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it.

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Ultress honey, its ok.

Girl you gotta leave them men alone and get you some sleep!

:wink: