what's the "anti-misogyny policy"?

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@HurricaneDitka

I’d support this modification. If a Doper wants to share their recent weight-loss success, for example, and invite others to celebrate with them, or solicit opinions about their new hair style, those could be exceptions.

I want to note a caution on this modification. I should have posted it with the original post. The exception might not be desired.

I was thinking about this post in the #metoo backlash thread that got a lot of support.

@Bone

It’s been my practice for 20 years to not comment about anyone’s physical appearance or manner of dress unless it violates policy in some way and I am their manager. Not in a work setting, not in a social setting where co-workers are present. It takes virtually zero effort to do this.

When someone makes a comment of this nature towards me, I acknowledge it and move on. I don’t consider it harassment personally, and a lot of times it’s just a nice gesture, but I appreciate how it can be inappropriate and bright lines are easier than grey areas so that’s how it goes.

Maybe a social message board is different enough from a workplace, but maybe not. If it’s not, then comments about anyone’s physical appearance might be fraught with potential inappropriateness. Even inviting comments on one’s own physical appearance might not be a good idea. It might be a good standard for everyone to follow, although Bone doesn’t enforce it on anyone else in that setting.

I agree with Bone in that post that bright lines are easier to navigate than gray areas.

Please also note that the modified rule of: disallow any comments on another individual’s appearance without their explicit invitation does away with disallowing comments about groups. I see less potential for offensiveness there because, as has been pointed out, it will largely get called out for bigotry.