What's your current relationship status? (A snapshot poll)

In My Humble Opinion
41

I chose other…this xkcd comic sums it up pretty well.

I was dating a girl last August for about two weeks. I had pined for her since the spring when she broke up with her BF, and for a while after me and another guy were sort of “competing” for her. He actually had no interest in her whatsoever (other than a physical attraction), but saw that I liked her, and for some reason he has always felt the need to compete with me, and is quite good with women, so…yeah. So she was dating him for a good chunk of spring/early summer…then one day I was just hanging out with her watching a movie at her place, and we got closer and closer on the couch, and starting making out. We were hesitant to start something, because she was leaving to study abroad for a semester in a couple weeks, but we did anyway because she felt the need to “make up” lost time for, in her mind, choosing the wrong guy to be with in the spring.

Well, she left for London, and we didn’t explicitly say what we were going to do, but it was sort of implied we would start dating again when she got back…only, while there, she slept with her ex-boyfriend (not the one that was “competing” with me, the one before) because by some freakin’ coincidence, he was studying abroad in Scotland. She confessed and was very sad and apologetic, again implying that she had intended to keep seeing me when she got back, but when she finally did get back, even though I wanted to still see each other, she said she didn’t (this was New Year’s.) She said she still had too many feelings for the ex she slept with, even though she knew he didn’t want to be with her and was even angry at him for sleeping with her and bringing back these emotions she had finally gotten over.

Well, we still hung out and flirted and were always just this side of doing anything really physical until Valentine’s day when we both went out to a bar our friend worked at for cheap drinks for a “sucks to be single” party. I lived nearby, so she crashed in my bed and one thing led to another and we had sex…I caulked it up to the booze and it wasn’t that awkward the next morning. Well, the Thursday after that she came over to watch some DVDs and we had sex again, so I thought,
“Oh, maybe she does want to start something again? Or she just wants a friends with benefits thing?”

But then this past week she has still been hanging out with me, and we are still getting physically close, but again she doesn’t let it get to the point of even kissing, but it looks like she wants to? It seems she is still hung up on the ex for one reason or another, but still wants to be with me, but feels that she couldn’t give me the commitment I need because of her feelings, but maybe she can soon.

So I’m stuck here still wanting to be with her, but getting frustrated that I can’t to the degree I want, and feeling like I should just find someone else, but feel that if I do, knowing my luck, she’ll finally go “ok let’s date.”

So…that came out a LOT longer than I intended, so if you scrolled past, in summary:
I have a really frustrating thing with a girl I like who doesn’t want to commit.

42

Six years we’ve lived together without being married. Longest relationship I’ve ever had.

43

Committed, living together relationship here. Formerly long distance. We’ve been together a year and a half.

44

Banging some guy who is so wrong for me.
Trying to do things all proper-like with some other guy

First dude is covered in gang/jailhouse tattoos, and we really have nothing to talk about; second dude is a doctor and we have all kinds of stuff to talk about, but that’s about all we have to do…

Ho hum. My life makes no sense.

45

My husband and I met in October, and we were married in December. We had known each other for less than 3 months when we got married.
We just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary on December 30th. We have a great relationship, and we’re very happy.

46

Married for 26+ year. Not bad for a 4-week courtship followed by elopement.

47

Still married, but not for long. We’ve been living apart since January 09.

48

Still waiting for a gal to ask me “How you doin’?” :wink:

49

Divorced, single, and celibate for more years then I care to count.

44 years old.

50

Married for 2.5years. This relationship started in college, then we had to get through almost two years doing the long distance thing as my wife graduated before me. Then, after I graduated, we both got jobs in the same city and got married.

51

Congratulations!!

As for me, I voted in a committed relationship as my bf and I will have been dating 2 years this month. We started off long distance (about 2 1/2 hours apart by car) and would see each other on the weekends but talk every day. I moved up to his town in the summer of 2008 but we have chosen not to live together at this time.

I originally had a roommate, but in 2 weeks I will be moving in to my own place about a mile away from my bf. This will be interesting. We are both very independent and enjoy being able to choose to be together, rather than having no way to get away by ourselves if we need it.

52

Committed LTR for 13 years this spring.

53

n/m

54

Seconded! (only one year off on the age too!)

55

I’ll be married 20 years this September to a hot tamale from Panama. We don’t see eye to eye on many things, meshing interests has always been challenging, she’s Catholic, I’m an atheist and, to this day, she still drives me up a freaking wall sometimes, but what can I do? She’s got the stuff, man.

We never had children, and we’re both resigned that that ship has sailed, although that’s probably just an excuse as we’re still young enough to go down that path if we wanted. But nah. The idea of children at this point is less appealing for me than going to the dentist.

56

Divorced, for three years now. I checked “other” too, as I have done some dating, and would be actively seeking right now if it weren’t for my financial situation. As it is, I don’t initiate any relationships, but I will follow up on any interest expressed. I make my situation clear, and if she’s still interested, matters will proceed.

57

I think the OP is just trying to find out if a certain Doper is “available” and hoping that they will respond to the poll. :smiley:

Me - married, coming up on 10 years.

58

I’ve been married 9 years this Friday, but I also currently have two girlfriends, one of whom is also my wife’s girlfriend. It’s a complicated polyamory thing, so I chose “other”. Didn’t see that I could check more than one option until after I voted, or I would have chose “married” as well.

59

Committed relationship for 6 months. Moved in together last month. Would totally marry him tomorrow if he asked.

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60

I checked committed (living together), married and other - I’m getting married in 60 days.