Going back to my other thread, I look back to my time in the 80’s. Obviously we knew it wasnt right to force yourself on a girl but… I cant say we were taught it wasnt either. Quite frankly the “No means No” thing, I cant remember hearing that until the 90’s. It seems we were given the idea that if a girl says “no” she just kind of, sort of, means it.
I mean look at the first “Rocky” movie where Rocky forces himself on Adrian. Look at “Fast Times At Ridgemont High” where Gerome has sex with the girl in her bathhouse and she tries to stop it. In “Animal House” the young woman falls over drunk and the college boy considers sex. I remember that scene in the movies and all the young men were saying “do it!”. In “Porky’s” it was ok to look at the girls showering. In “Zapped” it was ok to use your powers to lift a girls skirt or undo her top.
HERE is entire list of 80’s teen sex movies where we got our “education”: https://www.listchallenges.com/80s-sex-comedies
Also back then house parties were the norm. The drinking age in Kansas was 18. The “cool” parents let their kids have unsupervised drinking parties at their homes. They bought kegs. In those days I remember tshirts saying “Drunk Drivers Against Mad Mothers” and “Alcoholics Unanimous”. On TV MASH had the heroes almost always drunk and Hawkeye often forced himself on women. Fonzie once used his magic “snap” to make a bra pop off.
It wasnt right. It gave us lots of bad ideas about how to treat women. Lots of assaults and unwanted pregnancies happened. I’m glad things changed now that I have kids of my own.
So what about you all? What messages were you exposed to back then and when did it change?