Thank 'ee. And it’s so nice to see you back I won’t even make the usual request concerning the other one. 
I’m not seeing the sexism, Tracy Lord. You mentioned that the shirt made your boobs look great. It does not take an Einstein to know that once you mention your boobs, others will be interested in them.
RE Mentioning It In Other Threads
Hal Briston had the misfortune to leave himself logged in to the SDMB on a work computer. A cow orker used this opportunity to start a thread ‘Sex With Sheep Is Fun!’. This followed Hal around for at least a year. It would have been much worse if he’d reacted the way you are.
If you really don’t want it mentioned. Let it slide. The more dramatic your reaction, the more some posters will feel compelled to mention your boobs.
Let me try this again being as clear as I can be:
I don’t care about her accusations of sexism.
My comment was that the comedians who think it’s funny to continue to tease someone about something that clearly bothers them are morons who should move on.
So you can come back and respond with as many fun quotes as you’d like and mine the dope for “doozies” that trip your trigger, I don’t care. Should she just ignore them? Sure. But wouldn’t it be better for the idiots to control themselves and just stop?
Honestly, she asked pretty nicely for them to stop the first time. Not a mention of sexism. Then Koxinga got all huffy, Tracy responded in kind and it all went to shit. I have no idea how dba Fred could have read the first thread and still thought it a good idea to raise it in an unrelated topic, but there you go.
Fine, some people on the internet act more familiar than other people like. But if someone asks you nicely to stop it (and Tracy did), then stop it. Not everyone shares your personal boundaries, and you shouldn’t be offended if this is the case.
I do think the old burlap sack desexualisation routine is laying it on a bit thick, but Jesus, it’s hardly a cockslap to the face if someone requests that you not ask for pictures of their boobs. Get over it, move on, ask someone else how they doin’.
Here I was, ready to chronicle the dryer accident that ruined the Speedo I employ to beautify my taint, but damn if you people haven’t already sucked the fun out of it.
You’ll note I’m not one of the people who’s made any comments on her boobs, I am not the droids you’re looking for here.
The only difference between your advice and mine is that I’m not under any illusions that the whole less than ten people who’ve taunted her about it will stop doing so based on anything I say or do.
Honestly, I’m in this thread because I offered well-intentioned advice and got held up as indirect evidence of how sexism is apparently okay. I am perfectly fine with her boundaries and like I said, I respect them, I just think at this point she and many others are being dramabombs about the whole damn situation that didn’t so much need a thread as it needed a few pushes of the ignore button. I mean, seriously–maybe six people have teased about this. Christ, I had more people than that try to beat me up in high school every year, and that community is at least two orders of magnitude smaller than this one.
Did I accuse you of being one of the people? Nope, I didn’t. You’ll find that I addressed my comments to you because you addressed me directly about things that I already stated I didn’t care about.
Do we really need to continue this back and forth or are you satisfied now that you got to use your little Star Wars joke?
Sure, fine - like I say, I don’t really buy the sexism line. I think only one or two people were really out of line at most. I just responded to your post because it was a recent one that said something I thought was relevant.
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I smell a rat. Red wine washes straight out. If you really gave a toss about getting stains out of your favourite shirt, you’d have mentioned the fabric it was made of. You know, that being way more important than your boobs…
Either that or the drunken rapist pig who jostled your arm while trying to cop a feel of your amazing tits is behind this whole patriarchal plot.
I don’t think the things that are making me uncomfortable and unhappy to be here are going to change, so I’ve decided to stop posting. The benefits aren’t making up for the negatives any more. Thanks to everyone who’s contributed thoughtful responses.
To the thread, or the board as a whole?
I think that is probably an accurate assessment of us – hope you find a place that responds better to your gratuitous mentions of your boobs.
You know, if you pulled this stuff at snopes boards, the tables would be completely turned.
This rings true to me–she’s apparently young and attractive and female. I am less young and less attractive–but just as female. I’m not going to claim that women posters neccessarily get treated the same as men everywhere on the internets. But I’m prepared to believe that my greater life experience and my lack of conviction of my attractiveness contribute to my percieving many of the comments which have upset her as being stupid rather than sexist.
I’m sorry to see her go, but accept that she may be making the wiser choice.
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Jesus–and I’ve been called uptight about this kind of stuff. Tracy–please step away from the computer, take a deep breath and calm down. Come back when you’ve regained some perspective. NONE of these people mean you harm. Truly.
I do hope she has a beige bra to wear under that white blouse… 
I think that’s wise. The Boards are not for everyone, and if they make you uncomfortable or unhappy, leave them behind and good riddance to us. I wish you the best.
I think people are being unfair in their characterization of Tracy Lord’s original remark in the red wine thread. She didn’t claim that she had amazing breasts, only that this top made them look amazing, and that this was part of the reason why the top was so important to her. It was perhaps not a really necessary remark, but it didn’t come totally out of left field either.
I’ve often heard other women refer casually to a favorite garment that made their boobs or butt look good. It’s not the kind of thing I’d be likely to say myself, but I don’t think it’s a particularly unusual or obnoxious thing to say and I don’t see why people want to give her such a difficult time about a harmless casual remark.
It’s also funny when people think I can make a valid point, even indirectly. Mostly I’m just sitting in the back, throwing popcorn.
Chase Ransom: Try reading my post again, but this time, turn your humor/sarcasm detector to the “ON” position. You might have to recalibrate it, because oftentimes my humor is so stupid that it doesn’t register on regular detectors.