[QUOTE=Malacandra]
Perhaps you should consider that a good many men may have occasional erectile dysfunction, and before you dump them: [list=a]consider that you may be part of the cause[li]consider that dumping them could make you part of the problemnope, not going there[/list][/li][/QUOTE]
One of my friends in school was Mr. Smooth with the ladies. On one of his evenings out, he met a lady and went back to her place, as was not infrequent but, as he retorted later, he couldn’t get it up, and we used to called occasioinal erectile dysfuction.
Nothing wrong with him, or her or anything else, it just happens to even the best of guys sometimes.
Fortunately, there are those clueless individuals who leave good guys for the other women.
I’ve been married 15 years. The occasional lapse has happened less than a dozen times. If you look at an average of 5 times a week, for 15 years, (more in the early years, less during pregnancy/infants, more on weekends) that’s approximately 3900 or so. .003%
There’s a big difference between .003% and 10%-25%-50%. I don’t think that is it wrong to have the ability to consistently get it up part as part of the selection process for possible SO’s. I have been in relationships with men who struggled to get 50%. With both of them, I gave it some time, practice, but there was no improvement. Why should I beat a dead horse? Even if you guys want to blame the dysfunction on me, the ‘mean bad woman who is demanding and just doesn’t understand’, if there isn’t compatibility, why bother?
To some women, sex isn’t that important. An impotent or semi impotent guy would be a godsend.
It’s important to me, and it would be a dealbreaker in an SO selection process.
[QUOTE=Malacandra]
Perhaps you should consider that a good many men may have occasional erectile dysfunction, and before you dump them: [list=a]consider that you may be part of the cause[li]consider that dumping them could make you part of the problemnope, not going there[/list][/li][/QUOTE]
Plus you can do wonders with sex toys these days. I don’t think a functioning cock is a necessity anymore. I don’t think dumping a dude over impotence would even enter into the equation for me…unless it weirded him out in which case…well, yeah, maybe.
I just bought that for my son not 3 weeks ago. I think I’ll wear it today in honor of DtC. With my 4.5 inch heels. I’ll let ya’ll know what the kids think, that is, if they even notice.
Really, the kids can’t turn out more fucked up than any other child raised in any other home, or as in my case, in a home with parents who should have divorced when I was 10 - about the time the playful swatting of the ass and mad rushes to the bedroom in the middle of the day ended.
I’d suspect, to **DtC’**s relief, that the kids will turn out fine, and most likely take a path opposite their parents - I thought all of us did that anyway?
I see this thread has petered out a bit, now that we are discussing Shodan’s grandma and who’s more shallow, Malacandra or fessie.
However, I’d like to say one more thing about the OP. And that is that years ago, it occurred to me that I don’t need to have an opinion about everything. Especially if it is an opinion into complicated issues (IOW, I don’t have all the information) or private issues (IOW, I don’t have all the information, a lot of research, is
Damn, didn’t mean to post that, but it still got posted anyway. Ah well, I might as well post my entire deleted post.
I see this thread has petered out a bit, now that we are discussing Shodan’s grandma and who’s more shallow, Malacandra or fessie.
However, I’d like to say one more thing about the OP. And that is that years ago, it occurred to me that *I don’t need to have an opinion about everything. *
Especially if it is an opinion into complicated issues (IOW, I don’t have all the information) or private issues (IOW, I don’t have all the information, nor can I because I don’t know how everybody feels). In such cases, usually there is something to be said for all viewpoints.
Not having an opinion. It’s the new “opinionated”. I recommend it. It saves time and aggravation and allows me the energy to do form an opinion in the matters where my opinion actually makes a difference.
Ouch. Never mind his orgasm huh? Doesn’t surprise me though, most women expect all the leg work in the bedroom to be done for or to them anyway, so I guess it isn’t a surprise.
What’s it called when you’re a misanthrope but hate women just the tiniest bit more?
Um…no. I never said, never mind his orgasm. I’m just saying that if he’s impotent, it’s not as if all sex play has to stop util after he’s regained his abilities. In fact, one of the treatments for performance problems/anxieties is to have the couple engage in a lot of sex play/touching, without actually consummating it, as a way of sort of pscychologically showing the man that he can obtain an erection without necessarily having to feel the pressure to do something with it.
You’re my new hero. That’s not trivial to maintain that pace for 15 years.
The problem is that the grandfather couldn’t get it up once, and it sounded like you were suggesting dropping him. That’s cold – and shallow.
As far as the question if dropping a guy because he has problems in bed, I think everyone has some sort of problem in their live. The big question in life is how to handle or overcome problems and issues and how to support your SO when they are doing the same.