His last post was on the 31st of May. I missed him in Denver when he didn’t reply to my email, though we had agreed to meet for dinner. I emailed GreenEyes, his ladylove, but haven’t received a response.
Has anyone heard from him? Is he trapped under something heavy or victim of a gruesome Pokemon accident?
I have to agree with the above. SingleDad was a fantastic poster, and I would like to believe that he had been a friend of mine too. For whatever reason he seems to be doing something else now. I respect that, wish him the best, and hope he hits it off big with GE and starts posting here again as MarriedDad. Good luck in whatever life brings, Larry.
Alright, you guys are acting like you know something and that it’s totally taboo to discuss SingleDad or even notice that he hasn’t been around. What’s with all the big, bold, scary LEAVE HIM ALONEs? I can’t imagine what’s wrong with inquiring about someone we’ve come to like posting with and wondering where he’s run off to. Maybe he’s on vacation (lots of people take extended vacations). Or maybe he lost his internet connection. There could be a thousand reasons. Y’all make it sound like some bigass deal that he hasn’t posted in a couple of weeks. I guess I’m just not fond of innuendo. If you know something, say it. If you don’t, don’t post unless it’s to chime in with an “I miss you, too, SingleDad and hope everything’s alright.” But don’t beat us up for wondering where a valued poster has disappeared to.
I agree with your sentiment, Shayna (I miss him too), but perhaps he has requested that people discourage discussion of his whereabouts (full disclosure: he has made no such request of me).
Well manny how the hell would we know that? Like I said, the innuendo is for the birds. Forget we ever knew him from SD? What the hell does that mean??? NO, I won’t forget I ever knew him here. I LIKED him. A LOT! If someone knows something and wants to say why he’s not posting here, great. If they know something and don’t want to say anything, that’s fine too (and probably more the right thing to do). But don’t come down on innocent people who are making an honest, heartfelt inquiry with veiled comments and weird admonitions to leave him alone (as if anyone’s actually bothering him). Sorry, but that just pissed me off.
I understand your concerns on that level…however, again, I don’t know much, but I do know it would be best if we leave the matter be and let SingleDad do his own thing.
He has internet access, he is alive and from what I know and well that is all I know.
In the short time I have known him personally, I gained some insight to his personality. That said, I also am requesting that people let him be even if that didn’t come from him. (that’s not really my place to say that, but it seems to me the best way from what I can tell). I am sure that if he is lurking he will see that people miss him and possibly return but I can’t be sure.
My posting was never meant to have any hidden meaning. I don’t know what’s up and I wish I knew.
He was a good friend to me and I don’t hear from him, see him or anything. I liked talking to him on the phone and meeting up with him for a beer…so the not knowing hurts my heart more than anything. To me it’s like I never existed in his life, we had some great conversations.
I can’t speak for him, I can’t speak for anyone but myself, I realize that. I would gather that SingleDad needs to be without the boards be that for now or forever.
The reason I ask is that we had agreed to meet the evening that I was in Denver. All that was left was swapping of phone numbers. I sent him mine, but he never got back to me with his and hasn’t answered any emails. Also, he’s taken his webpage and email off his profile.
If it had been “that’s okay, just send me a postcard,” I’d have been fine. It’s just that SingleDad has never seemed - at least to me - the type to flake. So, I’m a tad worried that something untoward happened.
Well, if he wants space, that’s cool, but I do miss the guy.
Heck, I never even had any sort of personal interaction with SingleDad, so maybe I shouldn’t even be posting to this thread, but I think I remember a gun-control thread from a few weeks ago where he got quite agitated, said something about a “coming civil war” and “rivers of blood,” and then said he was moving out of the USA. At the time I thought he was just saying that because he was upset, but as far as I know he hasn’t posted since then, so who knows…?
and don’t know a lot about SingleDad, except that he seemed to be a pretty cool poster.
But FWIW, I agree with Shayna on this one. I don’t see any harm whatsoever in inquiring about him, or see that it is taboo in any way to discuss where he might be.
It sounds like Techchick has a pretty good read on what’s up, and if I knew SingleDad well enough to have corresponded with him, I’d respect her advice.
However, I don’t think it’s at all reasonable to react as Shayna did. If it were ME (yeah…right) that were the missing poster in question, I’d be flattered that someone cared enough to inquire about me, whether my disassociation with the board was temporary or permanent.
I don’t mean to be critical of anyone here, just that I think that Shayna’s position is completely reasonable. And if SingleDad HAD asked that people discourage discussion of his whereabouts, that request should certainly have been made known. Absent that request, I see no harm–and potentially some good in a friendly “asking after” a missed individual.
Several months back, dad left the board and then came back after he had taken some time. Who knows maybe he is just taking a break again. Whatever the reason may be, I do feel bad for you phouka as I find it rather rude to arrange to meet with someone and then not even bother to send you an email saying he had changed his mind.
Since there has been a huge outpouring of concern over Singledad and his whereabouts I am feeling compelled to respond here…
He is FINE. Very fine, very happy He is not on vacation and not stuck under a piece of heavy furniture…
Although he will not discuss with me, for his own reasons, his decision… he has decided to stop posting here. That’s really all I know. He simply will not disuss it with me. I have passed on to him all messages, emails and quesions. What he does with that information is up to him. I don’t sense him being angry at anyone inparticular.
I have no idea if he will ever post again … he is a big boy and I have no control over that whatsoever. All I know is that he, being someone I love, has made this choice and I need to stick by him on this. I wish I had more to tell you… but I really don’t.
Well, I don’t know any more than anyone else the reasons for SingleDad’s decision, but I hope he at least comes back to GQ. He’s probably the second-most knowledgable and rational poster on this board (and the most with more than a hundred posts ), and his input was highly valued on all of the threads where I saw him contribute. I guess that’s sort of selfish, but that’s the way I see it.
I noticed his last few posts here were kinda doomy and gloomy. Maybe he’s depressed. Maybe he’s frustrated about something, bored with this place, or just piled high in work. Who knows? …SD if you’re lurking out there come say something…or just ignore me.