See ya, creepy boy. You said you want to take it slow, and he hits you up with all this diagnostic questioning. He’s put off that you don’t want to hop in the sack with him just yet. He’s not respecting the ground rules you laid out. Either he thinks he’s so special that he’s above the rules, or he’s got some kind of functional comprehension problem. Either way, he’s not the guy you’re looking for right now. Thank him for an interesting 9 days and move on.
Trust is a strange thing, when I look in the mirror I think I come off as looking kind of scary especially to women.
I must come off better when flirting on the internet. Strangely enough I haven’t found the need yet to use any dating sites. Of all things…I have met four women through a online Spades site. And no guys, I will not tell which one, they are mine!
Now this process can take time playing as partners, but the sexual banter can get steamy at times. The trust thing just seems to happen over a month or two. So much so that they all agreed to sleep with me on the first date.
Please understand that I’m not bragging, I am average on a good day and we won’t get into the bad days.
Women seem to need some sort of comfort zone which is understandable being that in general men are physically much stronger than women.
I should add that I always set up the date in a neutral location such as a hotel casino. Very public with lots of people around.
I have found that in the early stages of relationships, many guys will get all stoopid and lovesick, and will say all manner of dopey, corny, and/or creepy-type things. I mostly just look at them like :dubious: and answer, “Yeah, we’ll see.” Later on in the relationship they become normal again. I don’t know why they do that, but if you like him just roll your eyes and ride it out.
But then, again, a lot of creepy and/or abusive men start out real strong like that, too, so watch for other warning signs, such as temper flares and antisocial behavior.
Geez, I’m a guy and I only got to this part before the alarm bells, klaxons and large red semaphores began going off.
Doesn’t sound like a Relationship to me. It sounds like a concerted effort to get in your panties.
Happy Birthday Pbbth
I hope you have a great day! 
Thanks, Sherman! I had a great birthday! I went to the mermaid parade and I got into the New York Aquarium for free because it was my birthday (she wasn’t supposed to let me in for free but her supervisor was gone so she waved me in without charging me.) I went to dinner with friends and had chocolate cake for breakfast. All in all it has been a good day.
It doesn’t seem to me that he’s looking for “immediate trust” so much as a roll in the hay. He’s giving you the hard sell, hoping frantically it’ll get you into his bed. It’s not working, hence what you see as panic.
pbbth, regardless of his intentions toward you, it sounds to me like the man is a great gaping black hole of need. Anyone who’s asking you to list his sexiest attributes on the second date is someone who feels that by the second date, he’s shown you all he has to offer. Do you really want to spend your free time reassuring this guy that he’s a valuable human being?
We probably need a “red flags you are glad you ignored” thread to counterbalance all the horrors in the “red flags you missed” thread!
As far as trust goes, I tend to trust what people say about themselves from the beginning–no harm if I am proved wrong–but I am much slower to trust them with me–either emotionally or physically. Those are two totally different things that tend to get conflated.