Blind spots in the sense of aspects I might not even aware of to address.
I am a guy who takes the common advice to participate in social activities - in my case a bit of volunteering here or there, politics and regular (weekly) group hikes. When at university, language courses and excursions.
Occasionally I get up the nerve to ask a lady I like to go for a coffee, and over the years there have been a number of nice, intelligent single ladies that I have spent Sundays with, gone to the cinema and concerts, gone on day hikes with, shared a lot of laughs with, in one case spent a week as a guest in the East German city she was from, shared family troubles, etc. - we only ever got out of touch when she or I moved away.
But.
We are only ever good friends, and consequently I frankly wish my parents had had the good sense to have me aborted. This is no kind of life.
So of course I worry what the things that are so essentially wrong with me are. Only, the classical relationship dealbreakers are also friendship dealbreakers, aren’t they? I am unattractive but not so repulsive that women would noticeably look away in a conversation (and not so unattractive as some men whom women do take up with); I don’t smell bad or women wouldn’t voluntarily sit next to me for hours; much the same applies for being impolite, egoistical, domineering or inconsiderate. I am familiar with encouraging body language in women from seeing it addressed to others, so it’s not that I don’t see indications of interest.
The areas that I’ve worked on these last few years have been to force myself to work less, sleep more, lose weight, get fit and force myself to participate in social conversations.
So, apart from these, what might be any blind spots in my character, behavour etc. that I don’t even see?