If this seems like a rather odd question, it’s because alcohol was involved in it’s formulation.
While having dinner with some friends last night, this is the hypothetical that was put forth:
You’re mid coitus with this exciting person you met a couple of weeks ago. This is your first time together. You get a text, for whatever reasons, you reach over to the nightstand and pick up the phone. On it, reads a text message from your mom: If you’re dating so-n-so, you need to stop. She/He is your cousin.
Do you continue on to completion?
I’m fairly certain that if my lover took a text during coitus, we’re done for the night, at least, unless his child is in the hospital or something. Just a mood wrecker.
Would I have a relationship with a person after I found out he was my cousin? Maybe. Depends on just how much I liked him, I suppose, and how much stress it would put on our families. I ain’t breeding no more, so I’m not worried about that, no matter what the law or the science says (hint: the science says it’s not terribly risky, anyhow.)
ETA: My parents knew they were cousins before they started dating - but they’re cousins by marriage and didn’t meet each other until their early 20s, so it doesn’t “count” to many people. Still, gotta give Dad a bit of a WTF for hitting on his cousin at a funeral.
And if she/he doesn’t notice all this texting and internet use during coitus, she/he might be of such a diminished mental capacity that it would be considered rape anyway.
I’m not squished out by cousin sex. Perhaps because I don’t have a relationship with my cousins (and consistent with the OP’s premise) I wouldn’t recognize my female cousin if she fell on me.
ETA: Even if I was opposed to it, we’ve already crossed the line, so might as well keep going. “Completion” doesn’t make it any worse.
I meant, if he’s going some pressing thing going on in his life which could go from “nagging worry” to “emergency” in a matter of moments, then I’d understand checking his texts in the middle of sexyfuntime, and I’d let it go. But that’s more about taking a text message, not the cousin issue.
As a 17yo kid many years ago, I was staying with my 27yo sister and her husband for the summer. I met and became physical with two young ladies - both older than I - who happened to be sisters. One named “Bea”, one named “Kay”.
Apparently my sister became aware of the full nature of my relations with the girls, and caught me coming home at 4am and sat me down.
“We have to talk”, she said.
Now, I am adopted. As an infant. I’ve known since I was able to speak. My parents kept nothing from me. Or so I thought.
Turns out my sisters both knew far more than anyone ever told me. It’s OK, I guess. None of it is or would have been relevant or important growing up.
My biological family consisted of 2 older sisters, 1 older, and 2 younger brothers.
The sisters? Bea and Kay. :eek:
A few questions determined it to be an incredible coincidence, rather than incest but still.
Round 2 for me.I’d have no problem boinking a known cousin to begin with, let alone someone whom I didn’t know was a cousin. I fail to see where the eek factor would be. I’m assuming that people wouldn’t want to have sex with their cousins because they’ve been too close to them as children, for instance, and that it feels to them like having sex with their sister or something. If the “cousin” is in practical term a stranger, I can’t see what the issue is.
Of course it does. It puts you from “unknowingly banged your cousin” to “knowingly banged your cousin.” That’s way worse when word gets around your office.
I can tell you that after we found out we were second cousins on our paternal side, a certain fellow and I sighed at each other “you HAD to go and be family?” and that was the end of it. Even if our culture considered that kind of relationship acceptable, we share a horribly complicated lastname: bestowing a double whammy of that upon any children would have been enough grounds for said children to get a name change and never talk to us again as soon as they turned 18.
We weren’t mid-coitus, though, hadn’t even kissed unless we’re counting the compulsory two kisses on the cheek when a common uncle who didn’t know we’d met by chance a couple of nights prior introduced us.
OTOH, my mother’s side of the family includes a marriage between cousins in which the wife is the daughter of a marriage between cousins. Definitely no taboos against cousin marriage there.
