Shalmanese:
But then why even bother to interject and provide your opinion? The work was not for you, she doesn’t care if you find it boring or preachy or revelatory or any other emotion. You’re free to have those emotions but why do you feel it’s so important for your opinion to be heard? Is it because you’re so used to everything being for you that you’re now needing to air your opinions loudly so that you can try and make it for you?
What was the title of this thread again? What were the words used in the very first post? Was it a call for only positive assessments?
There’s a bajillion things in the world that are not made for you and you correctly understand that your opinion is neither wanted nor appreciated. You don’t go into threads about children’s television and talk about how the plot is inane and the visuals are garish. You don’t go into makeup tutorials and talk about how they are irrelevant their tips are to your life. You correctly understand that your contribution in those discussions is minimal and unwanted, that your role is at most to listen and absorb.
But there are certain other spaces in which other people are trying to have discussions about issues not pertaining to straight white men that straight white men persistently try and barge into and make it about them. It’s hard for women to have a public space to talk about their personal experiences with sexual harassment without men barging in and trying to make it about them. It’s hard for POC to have conversations about racism without white people turning the conversation onto themselves. It’s a universal experience of minorities that certain groups of white people feel so threatened by conversations in which they are pointedly not invited because it is not for them that they cause all sorts of drama and hysterics to forcefully make it about them.
There is plenty of work by lesbian, black and other minority artists that is for you. They are patiently working their way to help a straight white male understand the lesbian/black/minority experience and they can be judged on whether they succeeded on their stated intentions or not. This is not that, this is pointedly not that. That’s what other people are seeing from this work that you are not.
My god, the condescension, arrogance and prejudice at work in those three short
I was most likely dealing with challenging art and concerning myself with matters of equality while you were at your mother’s tit.