This thread seems to be about several different topics at once, but I just came in to relay an anecdote. Many moons ago, when I was a young, hungry whippersnapper, I got promoted to middle management in a smallish-to-medium sized private company (that was not publicly traded, but the employees all owned almost-worthless stock). The Chairman had founded the company and his daughter was CEO and President. The company embraced nepotism.
Anyway, I had come up through the ranks of the various shitty office gigs and had temped in a previous lifetime, doing your basic, run-of-the-mill secretary/admin. assistant work. When I got promoted, I had a hard time walking past the fax machine to hand something to my secretary to fax. When I had been in that position, I’d resented how “lazy” I perceived managers to be. They couldn’t seem to do anything for themselves and I was determined not to be that kind of douchebag. So I kept my own schedule and sent my own faxes and picked up my own drycleaning. I never asked my secretary to do pointless little tasks for me or run personal errands for me. She often volunteered, but I always declined and pointed her to the assignments I wanted her working on – productive work that supported the whole team, not just me.
Anyway, shortly after my promotion, I tried to send a fax. Dial 6 to get an outside line, input my LD code, area code, prefix, number… and nothing. Confirmed with someone nearby that I was performing the operations in the correct order and was using the correct LD code, repeated the process aaaaand… nothing. Faxy no worky.
I was late to a meeting and had to jet, so in frustration, I asked my secretary if she could please, just this once, take care of this fax for me and put the receipt in my box, ohthankyouverymuchyou’realifesaver. Boop boop boop, she hits a couple buttons and the damn fax goes through. That happened a few more times until my secretary insisted that she didn’t mind sending all my faxes for me in perpetuity. I finally gave up and let her do it because every time I tried, the fax would fail to go through. I don’t know why this promotion caused me to lose my ability to send a fax because I’d sent thousands of faxes before in my previous iteration as a worker-bee, but suddenly when I was a junior queen bee, no more faxing.
Around that same time, I noticed that the VPs that I reported to rarely sent their own emails – even the IT VP. They would jot notes on paper (this was late 1990s) and hand them off to the secretaries, who would dutifully type them out in Outlook and hit send to the appropriate distribution list. The same secretaries had to print out all the incoming emails and hand a stack of paper to the VPs, who would generally read & reply (with pen and paper) during meetings when they were supposed to be paying attention to someone else. (How hilarious is that to read?)
I was afraid to seek promotion because I was quite sure that, if I became a VP, not only would my ability to send a fax not return, but I would forget how to read and send my own email. Getting on the board of directors would probably mean someone else would have to dress me in the morning. I can’t have that shit.
I resigned and went back to worker-bee status at another gig where people tell me what to do and I don’t tell anyone else what to do. It’s much better this way and I have much more compassion for the managers around me who lose IQ points and basic office skills with each promotion. I call it the Inverse Theory of Management Skills.