Ya know its almost like I can elate it to when one was in grade school; a girl would like a boy and she would show it by running up to him on the playground, give him a big sock in the arm and then run away again as fast as she could.
In my life I can think of three women who were total bitches to me. Two of these women were bitches to everybody but when it came to dealing with me they were SUPER BITCHES! and one woman was nice enough to everbody else except when it came to me she was just a down right bitch! Well the bottom line is I wound up dating and having sex with all thrree of these women (which I might add that the bitch factor made it a little more um, intresting?) I’m just wondering why these women were bitches to me to begin with considering the fact that they were attracted to me. It just seems a little counter productive.
So any insights fellow dopers? I’m especialy interested in the female take on this but all posts are welcome of course.
Oh and for what its worth I never gave any of these women any reason to be a bitch to me. (I know, you’ll have to take my word on this) Also in case anybody’s wondering why would I date these women if they were such bitches? Well thats a good question when I figure out the answer I’ll let you know!
Well, without wishing to be too judgmental, the fact that you refer to women as “bitches” may have something to do with it. Your willingness to express a less than flattering view of (at least some) women may cause a few of them to identify you as one of the classic “bad boys.” I haven’t read enough of your posts to have a solid idea of your own character, so this is just conjecture.
Many (less than sane) women are attracted to the bad boy type. They are excited by a slightly dangerous sort of personality and the risks entailed in relationships with them. There is usually a strong component of the equally ludicrous “if it doesn’t hurt, it can’t be love” mentality involved. Such women are equally prone to forms of (typically passive-aggressive) abusive behavior. The conduct that you have described is a classic manifestation of that mind set.
That’s what I was going to post, JuanitaTech. After reading the OP’s first paragraph, I thought about the reverse, where a little boy pulls a little girl’s pigtails, and her mom tries to comfort her by saying, “He probably just likes you and doesn’t know how to show it.” I’m not sure what the adult version involves, though.
I have lived 45 years and I interact with women everyday and I have dated a few I have interacted with, but I can’t really recall any of them being a bitch or “SuperBitch” (BTW does a cape and short skirt come with that?) to me out of the blue unless I did something bitchworthy
I have chatted with guys who talked about “that bitch at work”, and when I asked what being a work bitch entails, it mainly consists of being “stuck up”, and when “stuck up” is parsed it mainly consists of the fact that she won’t smile and make nice to them on cue when they flirt.
