Why are straight men turned on by Lesbians?

Yeah, but most of us lose our erections for a while in between.

Foxy40, you ought to check out some gay porn. I am a straight woman, and I find gay porn very very sexy. And I have absolutely no interest in converting those boys. This is PORN. It’s VISUAL. I’m just WATCHING. Men’s bodies are fascinating. If you are fairly monogomous it’s kinda neat to see some other kinds of bodies – just to LOOK!

:dubious: I don’t watch Queer as Folk - is that on TV? I have no cable - but I loved Brokeback Mountain and definitely found it arousing. As well as Lawrence of Arabia. And others like it.

It gets even stranger. I’m a lesbian, and if I’m watching porn, it’s gay male porn. Lesbian porn-- especially the kind made for straight guys-- bores me to death, as does straight porn. Then I run into a film where anything goes with anyone, and I found that even hotter.

Why? I think “really enjoying sex without hangups” is one aspect, at least for me. Gay male porn always seems to have that kind of energy. Even though lesbian porn for straight men has been cited in this thread as having that energy, there’s another aspect-- in general I’m just not attracted to extremely skinny women with long hair, long nails, etc etc etc. Everytime I see a woman with long nails fingerbanging another woman, my cervix weeps in sympathetic pain.

FWIW I know plenty of straight women who love gay male porn. Also, the reality of being with two actual lesbians vs. fantasy lesbians is that you’re having a three-way with an established couple. The one guy we did this with (my spouse is bi) felt somewhat uncomfortable being on the outside looking in. I think the appeal of “we’re bored, there are no men around and I’m horny” is not just joining in, but also becoming integral part of the emotional as well as sexual aspects, too.

We put an awful lot of emphasis on “sex” and don’t really pay attention to the emotional connection from porn. I think it’s easier to relate to pure sexual energy when you’re horny of course, but I also think it’s much easier to relate to someone or something you already feel a kinship with-- me with gay men as queer, two women who look like dykes, bisexuals of all kinds, etc.

Or maybe I’m way too PC and love to overanalyze this shit too much since I can’t much get it up anymore. God I hate Effexor.

I don’t think its just lesbian sex.I love watching a woman eating a popsicle

Me watching lesbian porn: Me watching two people I would like to have sex with, having sex with each other.

You watching gay porn: Ditto.

Simple, and no-one gets called abnormal. peers over specs at Merhouse

People are turned on by different things. For men I think the idea is “one is great but two would be better” and the idea that the women are just having warm up sex until the man comes along.

What women do hasn’t really been considered all that important. Since women were often seen as little more then the property of their husbands or fathers it’s a bigger deal if they have sex with a man then it is with a woman. You can find some historical condemnation of homosexual activities between women but compared to hot man love you’ll find very little.

Marc

It’s in the Torah, Leviticus specifically. If a rabbi made it up to rationalize their hatred for gay men–which, BTW, I believe is the case–it happened a long, long, long time before Christ was supposedly born, and the picture I think you’re envisioning of a bunch of Hassidic rabbis deviously gathering together in Brooklyn c. 1957 to ban homosexuality by some circular argument is inaccurate.

Ok…why does a Lesbian Porn Thread create Google ads for weather forecasting equipment?

I’m baffled. :confused:

Perhaps when neuroscience has advanced a bit, this can be answered as a General Question, but until then…off to IMHO.

samclem

There have been some really good reasons given, but I tend to take the simple view.

Take men. You are talking about a species that, if there was absolutely no other options on earth, would fuck a sheep to soothe his libido. I don’t care what it is, if it involves a naked chick, men will get turned on. A naked chick doing some guy, a naked chick doing another chick, a naked chick doing a donkey, a naked chick doing three guys, a bulldozer, John Merrick, it doesn’t matter. For any of those scenarios, you’ll be able to find at least 50 dudes who will spill their beer all over their polo shirts and/or construction boots while screaming “Woo-hoooooo!! THAT’S FUCKING HOT!!

It’s not so much a presence of some deep-seated need as it is an absence of giving a fuck as long as there’s a naked chick doing stuff on film that would make her parents cry if they knew.

Just my $0.02.

Outlook: wet and hot, with frequent showers possible later :smiley:

I’m a heterosexual male who really likes to watch “girl-on-girl” action. (Gee isn’t that a rarity :smiley: )
Anyway, I like Linty Fresh’s analysis:

So, to further expound upon this precept, if it involves two naked chicks, all the better !!! :slight_smile:

I think the appeal is in seeing two women having fun. Some of the guys are fugly too, so seeing his hairy ass or pudgy gut kind of disturbs the aesthetics of the scene. Girl-on-girl porn also seems to be more fun and less selfish than guy-girl porn a lot of the time. With regular porn, I actually don’t like the money shot scenes, partly because pulling out is no fun. They’re okay in context, but deliberately pulling out to shoot disrupts the whole flow.

I like GoG stuff sometimes, but sometimes it’s just boring. They have to be into it. If they’re not having fun, it’s not fun for me either. I like penetration of some kind. Fingers, hands, tongues, dildos, something’s gotta go in. Strap-on scenes don’t do much for me though. The one doing the pushing isn’t getting much out of it and, sorry to say this, but most women don’t know how to thrust very well; probably the lack of feedback. I’ve seen one girl who I thought knew what she was doing. Her partner thought so too. I think it was on a Shayne’s World video.

One of the hottest clips I saw started out as fingering. That was kind of interesting, because the girls were hot, natural, college-girl types, but not that great. What really got my attention was when one of the girls started fisting the other. Not that she was fisting her, but that the girl being fisted got off on it immediately and, when her partner slowed down, said, “No, nonononono!” grabbed her arm and basically did herself. That was hot. Screaming, squirting, writhing, makeup melting, “Omigod I think I’m gonna die” shuddering orgasms are what I like to see.

I think there’s a fairly simple equation in ( straight ) men’s minds; pretty women + sex = erotic. Women with a man, women with each other, or a woman masturbating alone; it’s the pretty woman with a sexual element that makes it exciting.

I also think that in most cases it’s not really a fantasy about lesbians, but about bisexual women; who, of course might actually let the male viewer join in. The constant misuse of the term is a pet peeve of mine.

I read (I believe in Bertrand Russell) that in Ancient Greece, although most men had homosexual encounters, the man on the “bottom” would be viewed as much lower in terms of social position. So a relationship betwen two men of equal status could result in ostracization for one of them. On the other hand, since women were “bottoms” anyway, no one cared what they did with each other.

I think a similar attitude can still be found today - Men are expected to be “manly” heterosexuals holding the position of power, whereas women are not much more than sexual objects.

I didn’t notice this, but it’s true…in a sense. For me, the females in porn are unbelievably unrealistic. I mean, a male can go around being fat and ugly and scuzzy provided he’s hung, but when the females have perfect breasts and don’t have zillions of beauty marks or freckles or really any blemish at all…
well, it’s like looking at two dolls. Yeah. Real fun.

Good point–it is indeed alive and well today, and homophobic men make a big deal about who’s the “bitch”, and joke about making each other their bottom.

Baaaaaaaaaaahahahahahaahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaa! Oh. You were serious? Honey, I took bitch classes from gay men. Pettiness is hardly confined to heterosexuality. In fact, gay men are much, much better at it. You want to learn how to verbally destroy someone in ten words or less? Ask a gay man.

There was a thread about a year ago that I can’t seem to find which talked about why women like gay male porn. The consensus was that it’s more “real” than straight porn, which is aimed at men, and some women are ooged out by lesbian porn, which is also aimed at straight men. Gay male porn is just hot as all get out; the actors at least look like they’re into what they’re doing, as opposed to women in most of the porn I’ve seen. The expressions and fake orgasms are more irritating than a turn on. Yes, I look at faces. I’m weird that way.

I look at faces, too, and I stop and delete any porn where the actors are clearly making a big and fake deal out of it. I mean, holy crap–these people are having sex with the best-hung/most-beautiful people in the world and they can’t feel some genuine joy in it?