Does this happen?? The first one I have heard of (but haven’t been sure if it was a real phenomenon or just a trope). The second I’ve never heard of happening.
IMHO: There’s a view of masculinity that says men are supposed to be aggressive, violent, controlling; serial killers would be the ultimate extreme of that ideal of manhood. The ultimate “bad boys”.
And just as many women are attracted to “bad boys”, there’s a fringe of them that are attracted to the hyper-exaggerated version of the bad boy archetype exemplified by serial killers. I’ve heard of a lot more of them wanting to marry them than get killed by them, though.
In other words it’s a fairly normal tendency that these women have taken to self destructive extremes.
Yeah…i have heard a lot of these happening around us and this is way too shocking., But something which we can’t really help with! I personally have an opinion that, these people definitely are not normal! Only mentally sick people can think this way. This is something which should be treated.
When I was in my 20’s, I briefly dated a girl who was obsessed with SKs.
She even showed me the stack of letters she had received from them from jail. (That was her 'hobby", she would write them in hopes of a return letter.)
But as far as I know, she never asked to be murdered by them. That’s taking the crazy up a level further than I knew it could go.
Yikes!
It strikes me that the OP’s definition of aberrant behavior is “things I’d never do”.
“The grace that saves us from psychiatric diagnosis is nothing more than the sheer good fortune that millions of others happen to share our delusion.” – Cordelia Fine
You see milder versions of this in attraction to extremely violent fictional characters, too. I recently heard a woman talking about how attractive she finds The Hound from Game of Thrones. Another once described Patrick Bateman as her perfect man. I have no doubt these women would be repulsed by a real life Hound or Bateman, but I nonetheless found it strange.
Here’s an article on women who marry life prisoners. On some level, I assume it’s driven by a crippling fear of intimacy.
Fun fact: One of the Menendez brothers has been married not once, but twice, behind bars. His first wife left him after she discovered that he was cheating on her. I.e., he was writing to other women.
“things I’d never do” i.e. asking to be raped and killed and asking someone to molest and kill your daughter. If **not **wanting to do those things is aberrant behavior, then…
I had a friend from high school who kept “dating” guys in prison. Once they’d get out, they’d live together for a few months, he’d move out, and she’d find a new prisoner. She had really low self-esteem and I think she thought she didn’t deserve any better. She’s stopped dating prisoners now, but has been in three abusive marriages.
According to a special I watched on the Investigation Discovery channel, it goes both ways. Any woman half way decent looking who gets her murder trial on TV immediately will gain a following of men willing to do anything for her. I know Susan Smith was one of the cases they mentioned.
I think it’s celebrity fame syndrome. Some people are just attracted to fame, even if the famous person got fame by doing something horrible (i.e., murder.)