Ya know, I think you might be onto something here. Also as I look at these types of photos I wonder how much of it is the woman’s fantasy (to be with black guys opposed to whites).
There’s probably - OK, bound to be - more than one style of cuck fantasy but what I remember of coming across cuckold fantasy stories long ago was the very opposite of much of what people are describing here.
What stands out in my mind is of the essence certainly not being the man having power over his wife by offering her to other men for sex. Rather they were about the man being abjectly humiliated by her rejection of him in favour of someone else. As in the husband finding it wildly exciting when his wife says “I’m going out to have wild sex with my Black Lover and his Gigantic Schlong. He’s a Real Man and will satisfy me properly, unlike you with your puny little fingerdick”.
Ahahahaha. I didn’t think in that way. Fear of the Dark is one of Iron Maiden’s songs, also my favorite. And, I still fear of the dark (absence of light). Although I am too old for it.
When I said common, I meant it was more common than I thought. It is normal for you to not know about it, I guess. Nothing to worry about.
Well this is way off-topic. Thank you for correcting me. I proof-read my messages before posting but that doesn’t seem to help me get rid of errors thoroughly. I am not even fluent in my native language since I am stutterer. Having said that, “Your English must not be very fluent” does not sound natural to me. Sentences such as “You must not be fluent in English”, “He is fluent in Japanese” is what I always hear. I have never heard something like “My German/Spanish/whatever is not fluent”.
Good song, but there were too many power chords and not enough meedly-meedly stuff on that album.
It has its share of virtuosos, but not a whole lot of trembalos and arpeggios.
FWIW, Maiden was my first assumption.
My pleasure. “Fluent” is an adjective and “is” is a linking verb. Fluent in this case is the predicate adjective with German/Spanish being the subject. Hope this helps.
I’m going to second the idea that cuckolding is a fairly common fetish as far as fetishes go.
The point about sperm comepetion made upthread is, I think, a sizeable part of the reason it’s fairly common and widespread (bearing in mind that by “fairly common” I mean it’s still minority taste). There’s decent evidence that in humans there is/was a fair amount of non-violent competition to fertilize a woman. Our penises are the biggest in proportion to our bodies of any primate, they also have a ridge that acts as a scoop to pull out another man’s semen. Though smaller than a chimp’s or bonobo’s, our testicles are large and produce quite a bit of sperm. The human egg seems to make choices about which sperm fertilizes it.
This may point to a mating system in which human males, rather than getting physically violent with each other, will often compete within the female’s reproductive system. In practical terms this means multiple males having (or trying to have) sex with the same female, each trying to be the one to fertilize her.
What this means for a cuckolding fetish is that the idea/reality of another guy sleeping with your girlfriend (or, really, any woman you might be interested in) can trigger a deep down instinct that makes you horny. A cuckolding fetishist exploits that instinct for sexual enjoyment.
ETA: I’m not a cuckolding fetishist, but the section in the book “Sex at Dawn” on cuckolding made a lot of sense to me; I’ve definitely felt myself respond to the possibility of another guy sleeping with a partner by wanting to have sex with the partner.
I am 46 and my wife of 18 months is 24 years younger, we have a wonderful relationship, but my sexual experience is vast compared to hers. A few months ago, while preparing for my annual hunting trip, I was feeling badly that I would be on vacation and my wife working. Partly as a joke, I got my wife some condoms and told her to use these if things at her Halloween party got carried away. At first she was angry, but then advised me she would like to have sex with Tom Brady. We fantasized about her having sex with Brady and it was quite fun for each of us. Shortly after, I was having lunch with a vendor, about a 30 year old, good looking guy. We have lunch about every few months. We talk about our personal lives and he tells me I am lucky to have such a young beautiful wife, he says he has not had sex in 2 years. I get an idea 
I invite him to lunch a few days later and I bring my wife. Now to get to the point, sorry for the long story: About 2 weeks later, they have crazy passionate sex in a hotel. My wife and I made rules, she always has to tell me about there time together in detail. They meet about every other week and have crazy, passionate, wild sex, that I can not do and would not enjoy and my wife loves it. This has increased the amount and intensity of our sexual relationship and we are having GREAT fun with this. I am not a voyeur, I don’t want to watch or have a 3some. I just want my wife to have more fun than I can provide. And yea, I get off when she tells me the stories of her encounter, it has actually improved our communication. It’s a very discreet situation. So what are your thoughts?
Yep. BDSM is getting to be pretty mainstream now. What high powered CEO doesnt crave being dominated for the sheer relaxation of it.
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In my opinion, every men have a thing for a bad girl - the girl that you see in a party and you would take her home gladly for the night but you wouldn’t marry. And also a man could want a faithful and nice wife. How great if you could somehow merge the two? Someone you love intensely is also now the same one that is “taboo” or “off-limits”. I think this is where this cuckold fantasy come from.
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The “lady in the parlor/whore in the bedroom” fantasy is pretty common too. Even most soccer moms are into some nawty Vicky’s Secret - no big deal. You are totally normal Im afraid.
I see you have received many responses to your post. I consider most of them without merit, and a few have some vague valid points.
Let me qualify that statement.
I am 49 years old. I have been happily married for 25 years. We have 8 children and 14 grand children. My wife is heterosexual. I am Bi sexual.
I am also a cuckold husband.
There are several degrees of cuckolding. From the mild act of allowing the wife to date and have sex with other men, too the extreme of being fully humiliated by your spouse and her lover.
Now let me expand on that.
The first example is brought about by the full knowledge that even though the husband is a great provider and father, and absolutely adores and worships his wife, he is not fully up to par in the physical aspects of husbandry. This doesn’t mean that the wife doesn’t find him attractive physically or sexually. It doesn’t mean that they do not enjoy the sex they have together.
What it does show is that even though the wife meets, and most often exceeds, the husbands physical needs and desires, The husband, on most occasions, does not do the same for the wife.
The husband, wanting his lovely wife too be happy and satisfied in all aspects of her life, recognizes this fact, along with his wife’s capacity for physical passion, and sincerely wants his wife to have these extra curricular physical liaisons.
The husband will often go as far as to “help” his wife “prepare” for her dates. From helping her bathe, shave, apply makeup and styling her hair. Too selecting what she wears on her “dates”.
He has no interest in having knowledge of the date other than knowing his wife has been treated well and has had a good time.
The second example is much more extreme.
The dynamic within this type of couple is much different. However, some things remain constant.
The husband, as in the first example, is a great provider and father. He adores his wife and is willing to do anything to please her.
The wife loves her husband and more than appreciates all he does as a husband. Except in the bedroom.
This is where things change to the extreme.
Often, in this type of marriage, the wife is the dominant figure when it comes to the sexual aspect.
The husband, is willingly submissive, in his quest to satisfy his wife. The wife enjoys “humiliating” the husband, sexually.
In turn, the husband enjoys the humiliation, to the point of sexual enjoyment, to please his wife. In fact, it is her pleasure that brings his. He is 100% invested in her happiness and can only find his own happiness/satisfaction through hers.
She wants him to watch as she pleasures her lovers and they her. It can often take on the role play of “feminizing” the husband in the presence of the wife’s lovers. Which can include the husband wearing womens lingerie, too oral, bisexual acts performed on the wife’s lovers.
Both the husband and wife find “physical” satisfaction in this scenario.
My situation lies somewhere in the middle.
Neither my wife or I are predominantly submissive or dominant.
I am very masculine in appearance and behavior. She is very feminine in appearance and behavior. This doesn’t mean that we are incapable of switching roles.
I am, above averagely endowed, and we have a wonderful sexual life.
However there are times that we like to add a little “extra” to our sexual relations.
I will help her by shaving her legs for her, help her select what to wear and critique her makeup.
She enjoys, occasionally, showing off/performing/being pleasured while I watch and sometimes join in.
Sometimes she, and her “date” are strictly on display for my enjoyment and theirs. At other times, she desires my involvement. Sometimes in a bisexual capacity, sometimes not.
However, we are not now, or have we ever been into the whole humiliation side of cuckolding.
I myself have never been with another woman since meeting my wife. And I am completely satisfied and happy with my marriage.
She too is happy and satisfied.
In 25 years, she has known, and we have enjoyed, together, in one capacity or another, seven other lovers.
Bottom line is this.
What makes a relationship work, between two or more consenting adults, is not for anyone else to judge. It’s none of their business.
As long as no one is hurt, physically, spiritually or emotionally. As long as love and pleasure are the main focus and outcome. As long as all are pursuing and practicing their, wants, needs and desires in a mature, informed and safe manner.
Then the world, in my humble opinion, is a better place.
Fore within the physical, emotional and spiritual act of sexual expression, where is there any room for hatred, racism, bigotry or judgement?
Too long, didn’t read full answer to banned Original Poster. But, the OP and subsequent discussion was about the Cuckold Fantasy, and not about how any particular real-life couple gets their jollies. There is a difference between daydreaming, reading or playacting and actually living it.
Personally, it seems more trouble than it is worth, but I long ago realized that since it is none of your business what my wife and I do in private, it is just as fully none of *my *god-damned what you and any other group of adults do in private.
To amplify on what Dr. F says, yes, we permit sex discussions around here, but we’re not interested in a complete rundown on you and your wife’s activities.
From our FAQ —
If anyone would like to take up this topic again, fine, but we don’t need to continue this thread in this vein.