I’m really into cuckold stuff. We’ve had discussions about this in the past, and it’s probably the closest thing I have to a legit fetish, though I would never take part in it in my real life. The appeal for me is a mix of the taboo combined with “the women, who as a group tend to frown on this sort of thing, are letting themselves become uninhibited and get into it.” All’s well, right?
However, a certain faction of cuck aficionados out there are into it from a humiliation angle; not “my wife is just so hot that I want to watch her with another guy, like my own private porno starring my favorite girl,” but “I get off on my watching my wife with another guy because it’s so humiliating to me.” Of course, this small but persistent faction pollutes cuck forums, erotica, and porn with pictures of their tiny dinguses next to a ruler, weirdly racially-tinged stuff (“I can’t believe my wife is fucking a negro - how embarrassing!”), and stuff that even verges into gay territory (“uhh…I’m so humiliated by my wife banging another guy that now I have to blow him.” what!?)
Man, those guys give the rest of us a bad name, and simultaneously pollute our little stink-pond of a community.
What’s your example for your fetish or proclivity?
It’s that they’re coming at the whole thing from a humiliation angle, which I think belongs more in a BDSM category. Humiliation is in no way a part of the appeal for me, and doesn’t even enter into the picture. If anything, it’s the opposite.
I loves me a good man-dominates-woman fantasy, but about 80% of the erotic stuff I have encountered seems to take me to *oh god, I feel sick to my stomach * territory. A great deal of the stuff seems to be focused on really bizarre humiliation or objectification tactics like making a woman piss and shit all over herself, or making her wear a collar and eat out a dog food dish. And usually the woman will get all Stockholm-Syndrome at the end as the man fixes the bleeding wounds he inflicted in the heat of passion.
I don’t personally get this, but I’m willing to acknowledge I may be a minority in the world of rape fetishists. As a writer, I find no exploration of character interaction as revealing or interesting as the conflict involved in aggressive sex acts. In fiction I really consider all sex acts a kind of conflict and the surest way to draw out the true nature of your protagonists is to put 'em in a glass jar full of sex and violence and shake the bottle really hard to see what happens.
But ultimately–beyond the whole story writing concept, the attraction of my particular fetish is the psychological implication of giving someone you trust complete control over you. There is nothing whatsoever arousing about the idea that giving yourself over to someone you trusted would result in them completely degrading and humiliating you until you viewed yourself as nothing more than a vessel for their satisfaction. I don’t get why so many people disagree with me.
Where the hell do you get off being judgmental about someone else’s sexuality? You of course realize that to most people, ***you ***and your cuckold stuff are giving them a bad name.
And they may even consider “TLDRIDKJKLOLFTW” a bad name.
All fetishes, I’m convinced, are very fuxxy-edged, running a continuum in intensity and edging into other fetishes. It’s not as if you can strictly corral them into well-demarcated camps. People who like a little slapping blend into people who are into spanking and other B&D that edges into rougher S&M that edges into psychological games of domination and submission that have nothing to do with physical pain. People fall into all points along this continuum, and along other routews away from the starting point. Who’s to say that any one of these “gives a bad name” to the others?
I’ve given up describing myself as a sub, because 90% of the time it’s been interpreted to mean that I must also get really really turned on by being banged around and called names and participate in some pretty ridiculous role-plays of “master” and “slave”.
Me, too. I think deep down I’ve got to believe the actress (or animation) has to be ‘in on it’ and enjoying herself, even if it’s not obvious. Or else I, too, get nauseous, and then it’s game over for my boner. That’s the problem with white bread porn, too. If the actresses look bored, plastic-y or just plain cheesy, it kills my sex drive.
When people start cooking with the kitchen utensils, even I get a little queasy.
I kid!
I dont get where you have the right to say that. As long as nobody is being hurt… umm… against their will at least, then what makes your kink better than theirs?
Although, it raises a larger question, of whether kink is purely subjective or not. I mean, imagine being a furry, and then being lumped into all the bestiality people. Surely that would be annoying, as furryness is all fantasy, and would the furry then be able to say that ‘those bestials give us a bad name.’ I seem to agree with my own example but disagree with TLDR’s example, and I’m not sure why.
This isn’t exactly a fetish (maybe that depends on how you define that term), but I am what is sometimes called a rice queen. Which in my mind just means that I am very attracted to Asian men. (Note: this does not sound like a very nice term, and maybe it isn’t, but it is in common use).
My attraction is both physical (smooth skin, tan to brown complexion, black straight hair) and also in some cases cultural (for example, the Japanese men I have known, both gay and straight, are not particularly concerned with the outward displays of uber-masculinity that so many European-based cultures seem to emphasize).
However, a seemingly large percentage of other rice queens seem to foster some sort of dominance/submission relationship, with very unequal roles, where the white guy (almost always) has the dominant role, either because he is bigger or older or richer, or all of the above. This is further complicated by the age factor, where (in my opinion) a lot of proto-pedophiles like Asian men because adult men sometimes look like (or can be made to look like) teenage boys. Since I don’t share these interests, and these folks seem to be in the majority among those preferring Asian men, I don’t often publicly acknowledge this part of my personality. This is one unfortunate way that I feel like I am sometimes still in the closet.
Not all foot fetishists are food fetishists, shoe fetishists, crush fetishists, sneaky floor crawlers, morons who only want a rub-off between a pair of arches, or craven little milquetoasts with shriveled nuts who wish to be dominated and belittled. Most of us are just normal men who have a need to experience a pretty woman’s feet, preferably along with the rest of her body. Is that so wrraaaaoooonnnnnggg?
Understand that when you write something like this, most people have no idea what you mean. All I can glean from that sentence is “something Japanese and most likely disgusting, possibly involving underaged cartoon characters.”