There is also, in my opinion, the lack of a societal punishment for it. If you steal, murder or assault someone, society has laws in place to punish those offenders. If you cheat on your mate and get caught, the only punishment is a pissed off spouse. You will not go to jail or pay a fine no matter how many times you commit the act.
I don’t think it’s the most evil in the world. But it is one of the evils that is regularly condoned. And there’s a double standard, too: women are bored, and their mates are meh, so it’s ok to cheat because they found exciting and Twoo Wuv over here, but men cheat, but they are the EVIL.
True. If a woman cheats, it’s because her husband wasn’t caring, sensitive enough, wasn’t attentive to her needs, etc. If a man cheats, it’s because he has no morals.
Some books or movies seem to take this to an even greater extreme: Women cheat because men are jerks, men cheat because men are jerks.
A woman admitted this?
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excuse me, which way to my home Universe?
To me, it’s about oathbreaking. I couldn’t care less whom my SO has sex with (I’d be a lot more interested in the why) and I certainly wouldn’t hold it against them BUT. But. But if we’d both agreed not to fuck other people and it turns out they’d fucked other people, well we have a Problem don’t we ?
This is all of course neatly solved by agreeing that fucking other people once in a while is OK if we were into that sort of thing ; but not entirely - I’d still like to know about those other people, because I’m insecure as fuck and would like to know the whys and wherefores.
Because it’s personal for a lot of people, lots of people have been cheated on, done it, or fear it. So it becomes a theme they don’t want addressed in their escapist fantasies.
This nation WAS founded by Puritans. And the continuing perversion of the Magna Carta to fit that framework has resulted in many disgusting examples. Such as states whose legislatures are majority male deciding what women are permitted to do with their own uterus.
The contrast is grotesque.
Look at it like this. Being in a marriage or a marriage-like relationship is the ultimate team. Breaking the rules is usually bad, but betraying your teammate? That’s the worst possible thing.
Not sure I agree w your premise that it’s the ultimate anything, but of course it’s subjective. Personally, I’d rather you cheat on me than say, kill me, or even steal anything significant from me.
many people (most in reality) place a large value and exclusive sexual access. though for most people i would expect any equally large trust violation as destructive.
Yeah, this all makes sense to me. The value of honesty and promise-keeping is hugely important. But romantic comedies are pretty much based 100% on the concept of lying to a partner and/or going to elaborate lengths to keep them from finding out something they’d be pissed about, and that doesn’t seem to bother people the same way.
Unless he cheats with another man, which under Hollywood Adultery rules make him a nobly misunderstood pioneer.