This is so sad. It’s horrible to be different, to be ostracised and abused. I’m a guy who likes ‘generously endowed’ women, but I’d never mention that to a woman I was interested in.
I am a D cup and only recently bought bras that actually fit. My friend had an “intervention” with me about wearing bras that didn’t flatter, and out I went and made things right. Still, if I wear a shirt that is clingy I feel very self concious and uncomfortable because I feel like the bra makes my boobs just huge looking and the focus of my appearance. I’ll get over it, but I can totally relate to how she feels. My usual garb is t-shirts and sweatshirts, and wearing girlie tops feels odd still.
I knew they could cause back problems, I was just surprised it could be that much of a problem at 20. But now that I think about it, she said she was triple-D, not double, and the rest of her wasn’t exactly proportionate.
So, ** In Conceivable **, how you doing???
1986 or thereabouts. Middle of the Reagan years = dark ages for progressive social beliefs. 
You are a brave man DreadCthulhu.
I completely sympathize with the OP’s friend “N” because I’ve felt pretty much the same way. I had gained about 20 lbs. over the past few years, and what was once a C cup really wasn’t anymore. But I just kept telling myself that the bras at a particular store “ran small” or something similar. I was complaining about it one day and my brother said that perhaps I was no longer a C cup. I was mad–irrationally so. I just wanted to kill the messenger for a message that should have been obvious to me. For some reason the thought of wearing a D cup scared me–“You mean I have a bigger chest than my mother?!”
I know it’s a different situation with “N” because it’s not really a weight issue, but no matter how thin you are, a big chest has the potential of making you feel fat. Finding something that isn’t baggy but still fits is a chore. Button-down shirts are the worst. If I shop at Old Navy or The Gap I have to get an extra large, even now that I’ve lost the weight. Form-fitting shirts look good on girls whose chests are smaller, but if I wear something too form-fitting, it looks like I’m just begging for people to notice my breasts. I don’t resent my body, but sometimes I resent the (completely natural) attention it might get me. I’m still pretty uncomfortable in anything not-so-baggy, so it’s nice to hear from others that either have felt that way or still feel that way.
As someone who had outgrown her Mom’s d bra by the end of the 5th grade, I can completely sympathize. My sister is always saying she would trade me. She has a d cup, and I always tell her I will take some of her rear. I have no butt what so ever, and she has booty for days. I guess thats just how it works out.
Feel I have to speak out in defence of big boobs. I’m a 34E and I love my breasts. I wear push-up bras and clingy, low cut tops with no hesitation and get nothing but compliments from other women and as for blokes - well, generally, they seem to get over the talking to your chest rather than your face thing eventually! You definately have to have a well-fitting bra though. I spent years spilling out of a c-cup before finally figuring that out.
There is a perception that you can’t have brains, class and big boobs.
It’s hard to look professional, because any blouse/twinset/ sweater will emphasise your boobs. Your smaller chested sisters can wear a v-neck slashed to their waist and look classy, you can’t wear anything lower than your collar bone without showing acres of cleavage.
So you button all your buttons, wear an unbuttoned jacket over all your blouses, buy a size bigger than you really need, and STILL someone won’t take you seriously.
I wear either a 30E or a 30 F. I love my boobs, they suit me, it’s other people’s perceptions of how a woman with large breast “must” be (stupid, ditsy, trashy and sexually not choosy), that get to me now and again.
I’m a DD and what I get tired of is that almost all the men I end up with tell me that they’ve been “thinking about getting close to them” etc etc. I would like it if they were looking forward to getting to know me and then they can become friends with the twins.